To think DH is being lazy

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We have a 3 year old and 2 month old. DH has form for deciding ‘essential’ things have to be done on Saturdays so yesterday the 3 year old ended up cooped up most of the day. He needs to let off a bit of steam so I’ve suggested to DH we take him to a soft play centre. DH has announced he’s ill.

I don’t doubt he’s got a bit of a cold or whatever but AIBU to think he does just need to get on with things? I am not catching a break at all at the moment and I am feeling it a bit.

Why can't he watch the kids and you go out for a bit? What does he actually do to help? Nothing?

He does help but I don’t know. Feels very much like he does what he wants when he wants. And if I did go out and leave the kids with him they’d miss out which feels a bit unfair. Sorry am venting a bit.

Do you want practical suggestions, or just a vent? Either is fine but helps to know what to advise.

You also just sound down about stuff in general.

You said that yesterday you went and bought the tree, which for a toddler is an incredibly exciting outing.

Suggest you feed baby, then put on boots and walk for an hour to just clear your head

What essential stuff is he doing

So he’s de icing the car. Great. Where is HE taking the three year old now?