why would an ex call you after more than 10 years of silence ?

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Alyssa80 · 03/12/2023 01:20

My ex called me yesterday, out of the blue, after 14 years of radio silence.
He was my first love and I thought we were in a relationship for 3 years only to find out I was just his side piece to the side piece.
He broke up with me by blocking me on his phone and social media and that was it.

A mutual friend reached out to me about 2 weeks ago. We had also lost contact for years. We talked about everything but him.
So I was very surprised to get a call from him. He said the mutual friend told him about our reconnection so he also wanted to get in touch. We chatted for 10-15 mn, he asked me about my life and told me to save his contact.

Now, I'm wondering, why would a man call an ex girlfriend he didn't really care about, after more than 10 years ? We were never close friends and don't have any common interests, personal or professional circle anymore, so what's the point ?

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Georgie743 · 03/12/2023 06:27

He's recently single and fancies a shag?

Namechange4234 · 03/12/2023 06:32

*He was my first love and I thought we were in a relationship for 3 years only to find out I was just his side piece to the side piece.
He broke up with me by blocking me on his phone and social media and that was it. *

After THREE years he ended it by blocking you?

And you spoke to him on the phone after a few years without saying 'fuck off you absolute bellend' ?

GrumpyOldCrone · 03/12/2023 06:37

He lied to you for three years. That’s not the kind of behaviour that changes. There’s not the remotest chance that he respects you more now than he did back then. So I think it’s likely that he got in touch because he fancies a shag and thinks you’re a good prospect. If you do shag him, I predict he will block you again. If I were you, I’d block him first: right now.

BertieBotts · 03/12/2023 06:39

He is bored and wants a shag.

Mummyoflittledragon · 03/12/2023 06:51

BertieBotts · 03/12/2023 06:39

He is bored and wants a shag.

I think so too. Sorry. And you were never his girlfriend. I get that hurts.

cerisepanther73 · 03/12/2023 08:05

I also agree with most of all the others posters comments on here too@Alyssa80

Abbimae · 03/12/2023 08:07

He’s single and it’s near Xmas, he thought he would give it a shot. Men are weird.

School99 · 03/12/2023 08:19

I think that when he spoke to mutual friends he was outraged that you didn’t mention him and wanted to prove to himself that he still matters to you
twat !!

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