To install cameras?

[Camerasforinthehouse]

So this would be with consent from DH and DC (Teens).

We keep getting into conflict. Cross words and slammed doors. DC, DH and once in a while me (although we are talking once in the last three months for me) but I’m wondering if I do something that makes it worse. We are trying really hard but it’s so hard to unpick what goes wrong when trying to remember back. And of course we are all biased in that we think that we are the most reasonable and the other party was more at fault!!

I think looking back on it could give us insights into what each of us do that escalates it. And when it doesn’t escalate, why.

Unreasonable?

Anyone tried it?

Anyone know what system? I wouldn’t want it connected to internet and hackable. Would just be kitchen and lounge. Would need good sound.

I put YABU because I find the thought of any cameras in the house creepy AF.

If it's by consent and only in the main areas of the house, then obviously you do what you believe is best for your family. Perhaps if you're going to do it, you could put a time limit on it - say 6 weeks max?

Of course there is the risk that filming everything and watching it back could make things worse.

It might be worth taking some advice from a professional before you go down this route (a therapist or psychologist who specialises in communication issues/family dynamics). The cost of some advice would surely be less than the cost of the camera system.

I understand where you're coming from as there's so many times I think k 'I wish someone had recorded that conversation to prove I'm right' but to have cameras in the house is just completely wrong for me. I'd feel like I'm on big brother I wouldn't be able to relax in my own home.

Cameras probably won’t help because you will still all interpret the footage in different ways. You need to focus on how to resolve conflicts rather than on who is right.