Violent night- the film

[Whatthewhy]

I need to know if I'm being very unreasonable here because I'm quite annoyed and surprised at the same time. So tonight, my son (10) received a video from his friend. It was of a film he was watching in his room, violent night its called. The scene was a man slicing another man in the throat, and it was disturbing, to say the least. Am I right in thinking that it's terrible that a 10 year old would be watching this? And should I perhaps speak to the school with concerns about what he's watching. He watches stuff like pennywise, saw, insidious, etc, all the famous horror films. What would you do?

Exactly this!

I'm baffled as to how any parent would allow a 10 year old to have unsupervised access to any medium to obtain and watch such a film, however they obtained it. This includes you @Whatthewhy

Should you go to the school because a child that has nothing to do with you is allowed to watch horror films? No.

If you're not comfortable with what this child is sending via what's app then block him from your kids phone.

I actually think you have that the wrong way round. The 80s/90s horror films were the ones full of misogyny, sex scenes and semi naked teenage girls getting slaughtered.

My husband put Violent Night on last night and I turned it straight off because I found it upsetting (and unfunny). Absolutely would not want a child watching that.

I’ve just watched Violent Night - it’s a 15 for very good reason! Very violent and gory, not at all suitable for preteens. And no way in hell should any 10 year old be watching It, I forget sometimes how batshit MN can be then I come across a thread like this 😆 Letting a 10 year old watch such content is utterly shit parenting, and there is no justification for it whatsoever. It doesn’t ‘depend on the child’, it’s just completely inappropriate.

I was at a friend's house at primary age- she put on the film IT- I was terrified and didn't sleep well for a few nights. I think 10 is too young for that stuff. I would be speaking to the mum about her son sending that!

@Veryverycalmnow yes grew up in 80s/90s and often when we visited friend's houses or had a sleepover someone would find a scary video in the collection and put it in. This was without the parents knowing and certainly traumatised me. My child is only three, so I have all this to come but surely phones can have age controls on them? Or you monitor stuff sent? I wish we could turn back the clock before social media took over our lives (as I lie in bed typing on Mumsnet on Saturday night)!

Sorry but the people saying it’s ok for a ten year old I’d assume you’re somewhat desensitised and honestly need to have a think about what you’re willing to have them watch. Especially if you have older kids, because you’re projecting what they like onto your younger kids.

We used to let the kids all watch marvel and I remember us rolling our eyes at in laws saying but there’s x in that (eg iron man, guy being drowned etc), this led to other non marvel movies, then youngest (9) and 11 yo started having nightmares. When we were chatting to each of them it turned out it was definitely because of what they were watching with us, add to that the shame of them saying can we not just watch eg inside out or the bee movie. Turned out they could take or leave the tougher stuff. And they should leave it- 8,9,10,11 even 12 year olds should be watching children’s stuff- not 15s or 18s. If they like kids horrory stuff find stuff that’s for their age

@Fionaville yes camp, tounge in cheek, 'only the virgin lives' type stuff with cheap nasty special effects any child could spot a mile off. Compared to the sexual violence of I spit on your grave, last house on the left etc etc. Or the blatant misogyny of something like say - terrifier where the clown chainsaws the woman up the vagina. Add to that the amazing special effects and cgi they have nowadays and tell me genuinely that the horror of old was worse? Absolute bullshit

I/we haven't watched any of those films. The 90s films I remember were Freddie and Jason type films which all had naked teenagers/sex.
IT doesn't have that.
My kids learned what a virgin is from Hocus Pocus.

Whoever you report this to at school, is going to roll their eyes so hard they'll put their neck out.

😂
My son was sitting directly next to me in the living room where he was playing his PlayStation. His phone goes off, and he checks and sees the video. He immediately showed me because he knew it was bad and he is a trustworthy, honest kid. We have clear boundaries with his phone, youtube kids only, and no social media other than WhatsApp that I WILL check at the end of every day. Please tell me what more I can do? Should I sit there and monitor him at all times? Should I put him in a lovely little protective bubble? He doesn't have a TV or games console in his room, and he is not allowed his phone in his room. Too much or not enough? Perhaps if the parents of the boy monitored THEIR kid, this wouldn't have happened.

Doubt it. When squidgame came out, all of the older kids were talking about it in school, and all of the parents were sent out a message informing us of the nature of the show, and the age rating etc, how it wasn't at all suitable for young children, so they very clearly have an issue with children being exposed to violent content.

@Domino20 then they shouldn't be working in a primary school!

Whoever you report this to at school, is going to roll their eyes so hard they'll put their neck out.

Is this based on your experience?

Apologies. I misread your OP that your DS was watching it in his room.

I think if as a parent you are informed and watch things with your child then some horror is okay. At no point did I call ‘It’ family friendly. Horror as a genre plays on our darkest fears as a way to process the world around us and things we have no control over, so I don’t see the problem with a Year 6 child watching certain (note I said CERTAIN) films in this genre with parent supervision. That is vastly different to unsupervised access - which seems to be the problem here.

As another poster said, I don’t allow my ten year old unsupervised access to social media (including WhatsApp etc) and he doesn’t have any tech in his room, nor does he have a phone. As an educational professional, I’ve seen far more problems occur because of this than watching horror films.

No it isn’t a safe guarding concern - it has been going on for years. Some parents don’t really parent much unfortunately.

I do think a debate on horror is pointless though. What’s worth remembering though is that as tech progresses, children are more used to special effects (the poster whose child studies these is a good example) and so no, some won’t be traumatised by seeing arms bitten off (in certain contexts), but some might. Only you know your kid!

Violent night is bloody good fun, we've watched it with out 12 year olds tonight. Out of all the films you mentioned that is the only one I would've let the kids watch! It is slapstick -and funny, basically home alone for grown ups.
But 10 is probably too young depending on your child. Does he seem worried about it!?!

Last night even!