H incapable of returning laundry basket to bathroom

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I am absolutely fuming and need opinions on this.

So I do all the laundry in our house.

We have a laundry basket upstairs in our bathroom and one downstairs for the children's laundry. I tend to use the one downstairs for my stuff too.

H is the only one who uses the basket upstairs.

I go up and take the laundry basket down to the laundry room and do the washing.

I often don't return the basket.

Unless I return it, H is incapable of doing it himself and just chucks his dirty laundry everywhere and complains the basket isn't there!

We've just had a fight about it- again. Why the fuck is he incapable of getting the laundry basket himself and putting in the bathroom ? Seeing as I already do all the laundry etc.

I personally just carry my own stuff and the kids stuff down every day, I just find it easier and I feel like I have more control over our laundry if I can see the basket filling up. Rather than having the basket tucked away in a bathroom I don't use that much personally.

Anyway, I'm fuming and think this is ridiculously spoilt form him.

Tell him that you will only do his laundry if it is in the basket. No basket = no laundry so his choice.

Put the basket back upstairs.
NEVER touch it again, let him deal with his laundry.

Stop doing his laundry.

I just think, in what world does he think this is my fault ? Why can't he just take it himself if I haven't done it?

He now wants to buy a second basket for the bathroom. How can he have such flawed thinking. I don't get it.

Your first mistake is taking the basket down. Explain the new rules, any laundry spotted dumped on the floor will be thrown out the window. He doesn't care about it, why should you? Next, you will continue to do his laundry provided it is brought down on the appropriate day, otherwise he can do it himself. The basket is his responsibility. You really shouldn't have to talk like this to an adult partner who presumably holds down a job and functions outside the home so I would explain that as well.

Seems fairly straightforward to me - his laundry is already separate so he can deal with it.
Personally I'd get rid of the bathroom basket altogether, if he wants you to do his laundry he puts it in the downstairs basket with all the rest of it

Sounds like you’ve got another child to look after here. How dare he be so demanding of you, it’s not your job to clean up after him and he’s being very disrespectful - this is not normal behaviour. How old is he and how much of the other housework does he do?

Tell him to bring his laundry down leaving the basket upstairs, he can put it in the machine, hang it out and take it back upstairs. Basket stays upstairs.

Why don’t you have one basket on the landing that everyone uses?

Explain the new rules, and for the new rules, he'll learn

*enforce