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Would you continue to chase this?

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autienotnaughty · 02/12/2023 07:07

My ds is autistic. There's a support group (not a registered charity) run by a local woman that raises awareness, has a facebook page for support and advice and will sometimes put on group activities for autistic children. It's a great group , I find the Facebook page helpful and have attended a couple of events.

They often ask for donations to fund events and do raffles. The current one is a Xmas party, we can not attend but I raised £50 and have a £25 bottle of spirt to donate for the raffle .

I contacted the woman who runs the group on messenger and she said thank you and she would be in touch on how to donate. I didn't hear anything so on a Facebook post about donations I asked her to let me know where to donate the spirit she asked if I was attending the party, I said no but happy to bring it to her. She hasn't replied. I then replied on another post specifically asking her to let me know where to drop bottle off and where to send money. She liked the post but hasn't replied.

I'm feeling a bit miffed, should I message a fourth time or not donate?

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Zaney40 · 02/12/2023 07:09

When is the event? Just wait until then.

DustyLee123 · 02/12/2023 07:10

I’d just put it in the cupboard and forget it for now. If youve not heard anything by the time of the party you know you can drink/regift the drink.

Changingplace · 02/12/2023 07:23

I think you’re putting too much energy into this, she knows you’ve got it, she’ll let you know nearer the time, she’s running an informal awareness group not a major charity :)

I’m sure she’s very grateful for your donation but I’d just pop it in the cupboard and she’ll come back to you when she has a minute, it’s not something you need to keep chasing up.

savoycabbage · 02/12/2023 07:27

I'm feeling a bit miffed, should I message a fourth time or not donate?

Neither. You have told her about it, she will either get back to you or she won't. Perhaps she's busy.

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autienotnaughty · 02/12/2023 07:30

Zaney40 · 02/12/2023 07:09

When is the event? Just wait until then.

We can not attend the event

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autienotnaughty · 02/12/2023 07:31

Changingplace · 02/12/2023 07:23

I think you’re putting too much energy into this, she knows you’ve got it, she’ll let you know nearer the time, she’s running an informal awareness group not a major charity :)

I’m sure she’s very grateful for your donation but I’d just pop it in the cupboard and she’ll come back to you when she has a minute, it’s not something you need to keep chasing up.

It's next Saturday I'd need notice to drop it off.

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LylaLee · 02/12/2023 07:32

autienotnaughty · 02/12/2023 07:30

We can not attend the event

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As in, when does she actually need it for? Are you also on the spectrum? Your reasoning/approach seems very rigid.

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autienotnaughty · 02/12/2023 07:36

@LylaLee does my username give it away😂

I get it re the spirit. But I don't understand the £50 surely it's just a bank transfer. I sent the first message a month ago a couple of weeks after she started asking for donations.

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Zaney40 · 02/12/2023 07:37

She'll probably reply nearer to the event to let you know how you can get the money to her.

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autienotnaughty · 02/12/2023 07:38

Ok I'll leave for now and if i don't hear anything after the event I'll assume it's not required.

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autienotnaughty · 02/12/2023 07:39

Thank you everyone

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LylaLee · 02/12/2023 07:44

@autienotnaughty

I didn't know if the username referred to you yourself or to your child.

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