AIBU to not call?

[PheobeBebe]

I made an error at work about three months ago. My boss was wonderful about it, but it really shook me and I ended up on anxiety meds and having recurring panic attacks. I couldn't go to work and had something of a mental health crisis. My boss was great and encouraged me to come back to work when I was ready, and she would make adjustments to my hours and workload to ease me back in etc. despite all this I felt I couldn't return - even talking to my boss on the phone would leave me a sobbing mess and exhausted - and so I gave my notice in.
I got another job with less hours and responsibility. I've made great strides to being better and haven't had a panic attack in a few weeks. I've felt a lot more like my old self.
My old boss has messaged me asking that I call her as there are a few questions about my work she needs to ask me. It's set me back massively in my recovery. Every time I think about calling or messaging her back I nearly throw up.
AIBU if I don't call her back? She was such an amazing boss, and a really lovely person. But I don't want to go back to where I was and can feel that this would be extremely triggering.

I wouldn’t have thought you are obliged to speak to your old boss now you’ve left. I’d block her if it is making you feel so awful.

Will you feel like it’s hanging over you if you don’t call? I would… calling might be bad but ongoing worry is (for me) worse. Good luck either way 🙂

Could you ask her to email you the questions? Then you can read it at your own pace or have someone you trust read it for you and assure you it’s nothing bad.

As long as you didn’t steal or share company secrets, it’s likely that it’s nothing bad.

She sounds like she done her best by you, email and explain but say your try to answer questions by email if you can. If you can't just explain and their have to get over it

You're no longer working there so I think it's really rude of her to ask you to call her about work. I'd block her.

Do what you need to do for your mental health. It sounds like the fear and worry of not knowing may actually be worse for you than just calling and finding out what she needs to know. It could be something really simple.

If you can't ring yourself can someone ring on your behalf and decide whether it's something you're in a place to be able to handle? Or even just to get the call out of the way so you stop feeling anxious about the call itself?