Addicted to mumsnet

voluminouspickle · 2023-11-30T22:17:48+00:00

I can't stop posting/ranting on mumsnet. It is a horrible addiction that is eating up all my time. Am I being unreasonable to check myself into an addiction clinic/seek therapy for this? It is taking over my life and my husband has lost all respect for me.

WhateverMate · 30/11/2023 22:22

He's probably a secret Mumsnetter that you've ranted at and fallen out with 100s of times.

Does your toilet brush keep appearing and disappearing?

Elfandwellbeing · 30/11/2023 22:22

lol me too ! Can I come ?

Stresa22 · 01/12/2023 00:03

Same here! I tell my husband that I “read something online” so I don’t have to admit I read it on MN specifically.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 01/12/2023 01:42

My oldest and closest friend fell out with me over MN and everyone just rolls their eyes at me.
This is mainly things I have learned , so I keep all of my new found knowledge to myself, or ignore it completely - which is easier to be fair 😉.
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RantyAnty · 01/12/2023 01:45

I can quit anytime!

OhIlovetosew · 01/12/2023 01:50

Dh loves a cf story, they don’t seem so many as when I first started reading posts.

but I am going to reduce my time on here soon, but to use that time to de clutter, get fit, and plan some nice meals etc, all from ideas gleamed from other posters.

ImustLearn2Cook · 01/12/2023 02:41

@OhIlovetosew That’s such a good idea. I’ve been meaning to do that for the last 2 or 3 years now. Every time I read a thread about decluttering or getting fit or sharing recipes I get inspired. But, for some reason instead of actually doing it I just keep reading. I’ll get around to it eventually, I’m sure. I will, I will, I will.

Maybe the key is to start my own thread asking for encouragement to get off my lazy, tired arsed, butt and get to work. 😁

ImustLearn2Cook · 01/12/2023 02:52

Oh, and I love a good cf story too. It’s a bit of a relief to know that these people live just about anywhere in the world and I am not living in some kind of weird cf territory. On the other hand it could be a bit concerning that cheeky fuckery might be contagious and is becoming more widespread.

SolarLightsDoNotWork · 01/12/2023 03:06

Do you know what,
I think we're all mentally overloaded. Pretty much all of the time. It's actually crazy how busy our lives are now and how 'switched on' we permanently have to be and how contactable we are all the time due to tech, compared to previous generations.
There's no way whatsoever my mum was half as busy when she was raising me and DB as I am raising my 2 DC. Life just wasn't this busy, fast paced or demanding then. And that's only 1 generation ago.
So I think scrolling for ages through mumsnet is a way of zoning out. It's a way of getting downtime. We've all become conditioned to use our phones for everything, so we're using them to read stuff online, such as mumsnet. In the past, before phones, we would have picked up a book to read instead.
The problem with mumsnet is that it's addictive because you end up scrolling through hundreds of comments and then go on to the next topic.
It's a recognised addiction, being on your phone too much. Whether or not it's looking at mumsnet or some other forum, the issue itself is the urge or need to be online. It's 100% addictive, and any addiction is really hard to break. Tech giants know this. I'm sure mumsnet knows it too.

Aria999 · 01/12/2023 03:09

Today I deliberately left my phone downstairs and wouldn't let myself have it till I finished folding the laundry.

It's a kind of company when I'm mostly alone.

Aria999 · 01/12/2023 03:09

P.s. I have considered starting this thread.

SamphireAndSalmon · 01/12/2023 07:34

Stresa22 · 01/12/2023 00:03

Same here! I tell my husband that I “read something online” so I don’t have to admit I read it on MN specifically.

I say that 🤣

Missingmyusername · 01/12/2023 07:36

SolarLightsDoNotWork · 01/12/2023 03:06

Do you know what,
I think we're all mentally overloaded. Pretty much all of the time. It's actually crazy how busy our lives are now and how 'switched on' we permanently have to be and how contactable we are all the time due to tech, compared to previous generations.
There's no way whatsoever my mum was half as busy when she was raising me and DB as I am raising my 2 DC. Life just wasn't this busy, fast paced or demanding then. And that's only 1 generation ago.
So I think scrolling for ages through mumsnet is a way of zoning out. It's a way of getting downtime. We've all become conditioned to use our phones for everything, so we're using them to read stuff online, such as mumsnet. In the past, before phones, we would have picked up a book to read instead.
The problem with mumsnet is that it's addictive because you end up scrolling through hundreds of comments and then go on to the next topic.
It's a recognised addiction, being on your phone too much. Whether or not it's looking at mumsnet or some other forum, the issue itself is the urge or need to be online. It's 100% addictive, and any addiction is really hard to break. Tech giants know this. I'm sure mumsnet knows it too.

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^^^ All of this.

Need to let your phone battery die. At least it takes awhile to charge!

AgnesX · 01/12/2023 07:39

I need to get a life/hobby and not look in work hours!

JackieQueen · 01/12/2023 07:43

SamphireAndSalmon · 01/12/2023 07:34

I say that 🤣

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Me too! 😂

Squiblet · 01/12/2023 08:31

So I think scrolling for ages through mumsnet is a way of zoning out. It's a way of getting downtime. We've all become conditioned to use our phones for everything, so we're using them to read stuff online, such as mumsnet. In the past, before phones, we would have picked up a book to read instead.

Yes this is so true.

I think also MN, and the rest of the "socials" (insta etc), are filling a gap that's been created by our lack of interaction with real people in society. Nowadays it's easy to spend a whole day and not talk to anyone. You get your shopping at a self check out, so no chat with the till worker. You get your parcels delivered by a driver in a huge rush. You don't talk to your neighbours in the way my mother used to pass the time with hers.

Social media gives you that spark of connection with other humans, because you feel like you're hearing authentic voices, and being listened to yourself. But you're not really. It's fundamentally unsatisfying and that's why we keep coming back to it.

Cath290383 · 02/05/2024 19:18

Hi, not sure I'm doing this right but hay ho, I need to vent.
I've been with my husband for 20 years we have had a volitile relationship at times but also we can be the best of friends, it makes leaving really hard.
We have 3 children together ranging from 7 to 18.
In the very early days when we was young he wouldn't let me go out I had no friends he was just be a miserable arsehole of I wanted to go out and would always accuse me of "talking to boys" on the mabe 3 times I did manage to go out in a 4 year period.
He never liked my friends always had issues with my family would very happily call them all cunts.
He would at times be physically aggressive, and intimidating, scratch his own face and tell everyone I did it and ofc I just let all that go on.
Anyway fastforward a period of times and he calmed down, I was allowed out, not all the time but I had more freedom, he was still rude to my family but equally as rude to his own, he no longer talks to many of them.
So for years at a time things would be fine, once we had our daughter things declined again, he cheated on me, he told me, threw him self on the floor, begged my forgiveness, said it was a awful mistake, blah blah blah the usual bull that comes out.
He then in the following year went on to become a drunk prick, he was truly awful, threatening me, punched my windscreen when I was driving with the kids in the car and smashed it, hit me, not as hard as he could but still hit me.
I stayed, I don't know why.
Even if I wanted to go I felt trapped.
Twice I looked him in the eye and told him I no longer loved him that I wanted to break up, he made it very hard, wouldn't give up on us became very nice again, cried, all that stuff.
Anyway things did get better once again for a few years.
Then today we had a massive argument again.
He has been a prickly arsehole for a few days and I could tell a argument was coming, he goes on about his anxiety like his the only person who suffers with it, I can't talk about mine because it "triggers his" I also can't talk to my friends or family as there all gossips and it non of there business...says he.
I am very private and embarrassed so I don't talk to anyone....hence why I am on her as I need to talk....anominously.
So yea we had a argument, I did call him a peado! I don't know why, it just came out.
There is nothing peado about him just to make that clear.
Obviously he was very offended and angry and that was a catalyst.
He threw the control by my head, started getting in my face screaming at me hysterical, face bright red, so so angry.
He started punching himself in the face and goading me to hit him.
He then punched the wall.
He kept screaming at me my daughter was in tears my son looked terrified and I called the police on him.
I've never done that before.
The police came and I told them what happened, they have informed social services as the children saw it all.
I'm so ashamed and embarrassed.
My neighbours would have heard it all then saw the police.
My partner left as the police told him to but had to come back as he had no petrol and no money.
As we are skint atm.
He wouldn't leave if I begged him.
I'm just stuck really.
I've already lost pretty much all respect for him and have done for a while, I imagine he doesn't have any respect for me or he wouldn't act like this.
Obviously he came home and was like ohh your My best friend you know I love you and I wouldn't hurt you, we just argue and things get heated.
Ugh I'm not even looking for answers on here as I know everyone will say, leave him and I know I should, I know that.
(Him and the kids do have an amazing relationship and he has never done anything to them) apart from yell.
Ugh I'm just so embarrassed that the police came and to make it worse the house was a right mess and these police offers were so young, amazing and lovely but young which made me feel even more embarrassed, like me and my partner are so fucked we have to have youngsters tell us.
I don't know.
I wish he would just find someone else and leave me, I think that would be the best situation.

Anyone in this kind of relationship?

meganorks · 02/05/2024 19:23

In fairness to all of us, Mumsnet HQ seems to have made it more addictive. Voting has been around for a while, but you get an email update on everything you've voted for. Then being quoted or thanked results in more emails where you want to click back in and see what's been said.

Maybe someone should start a help group. On here??