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To think I should be able to be a mother to my boys!!!!!

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Julezboo · 13/03/2008 14:05

I am so so angry with my MIL, she makes me feel like an incompetant and shite mum. She looks at me in disgust whenever I do anything with my boys.

Me and DP had a little spat this morning (you know the type. boht tired etc...) MIL butted in and put her big mouth in our argument sticking up for DH, then when he left to go to work she had a go at me!!!

When i dress my DS2 (1) she says "are you sure you dont want to put this on him its a bit warmer than a t shirt"

Shes a hypocryt (sp) if i turn the heating on, she waits till i go upstairs and turns it off, the fucking house is freezing!!

She pureed my DS2's dinner today and yesterday...He's 1 FFS!! She also gave him pure prange juice to drink all day tues which resulted in him having the shits and a sore bum and her reason "its got calcium in it its good for his teeth"

One day last week, he ate two weetabix's tried to go off and play and she asked me "should he have a banana now" I told her he doesnt really like banana, so she went out into the ktichen, cut one up and tried to litrally push it into his mouth, the poor boy was shaking his head and closing his mouth as tight as he possibly could, then she did the same thing at dinner time with Baked beans!!!!!!!!!!!! She keeps pushing his cup in his mouth all day, she wont just let him play or get on with things himself, shes always there, always touching him and even i can see hes getting pissed off with it! My boy is usually a happy smiley one but she wont leave him be!

Last time she was here she kept insisting on sitting in the back with the boys, then i found her loosening the straps on DS2's car seat

And FGS I wish she would stop cleaning !!!!!!!!!!!!

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liahgen · 13/03/2008 14:34

My mil comes to visit for a week at a time, (she lives couple hours away) and sits at the bench at my dining table while 10mth dd sita at her feet crying to be picked up, ( i was in toilet with 2 yr old)

When I came in I said, you could have picked her up, she replies, oh she'll only cry if i do!! AGGGGHHHHHH
she never touches the baby, just sits on sofa, watching telly. She'll talk to bigger kids but that's it.

I really don't enjoy her visits at all,

captainmummy · 13/03/2008 16:07

MIL used to try to forcefeed dc with cake/choc/biscuits, but my kids won't eat if they are not hungry. We stand our ground too, otherwise we'd be constantly eating 'because xx or y likes fruit cake'. A few cakes had to be chucked in the bin before she got the message.

Julezboo · 13/03/2008 16:20

shes just tried to give him banana again!!!

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quint · 13/03/2008 20:40

Tell her no!!!!!

I like the idea og having loud sex by the way!

kekouan · 13/03/2008 20:49

You poor thing!

Put laxitives in her food... see how she likes having the shits and a sore arse

Julezboo · 14/03/2008 09:18

Oh dear god, she is downstairs crying her eyes out! I left early this morning with DS he needed some new wellies for his big walk today.

Half way to tesco I got a phonecall off DP, his mum had a total breakdown even more the breakdown was because the gas went !!!!!! we had emergency so not a major problem but FFS, she is still crying, She told DP we are wasting money by having the heating on and its my fault! DP had a big row with her telling her its our home, our money and if we want the heating on we will have it on.

I dont wanna go downstairs, i cant face confrontation. Im still waiting to MC, still feeling sick, buried my gran this week I dont need all this

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VictorianSqualor · 14/03/2008 09:29

She is mad.
I'd just tell her to STFU personally.

StealthPolarBear · 14/03/2008 09:34

Seriously she sounds odd...you say she has a screw loose...any chance this could be dementia?
Sorry to bring some misery but this irrational over reaction is a classic sign IME.

chrissnow · 14/03/2008 09:35

She sounds like a worse version of my mom.
Go out with the kids and leave her to cry. Sorry I'm really not very helpful. At least DP is on your side.

Julezboo · 14/03/2008 09:44

polar - i have mentioned it to DP he seems to shrug it off, it is an over reaction imo too!

Ive just mentioned it again. I hate the fact hes in work and its me dealing with it I know he has to work but its his mother!

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captainmummy · 14/03/2008 13:29

Maybe you should ask her if she wants to see a doctor, she sounds stressed and irrational. But then some people just turn the waterworks on for the slightest reson, esp if there's a soft-hearted boo abuot!

Julezboo · 14/03/2008 14:28

she doesnt trust doctors she plays the victim all the time because shes portuguese! I am fed up, ive hid upstairs all day, shes gone out now for a walk so Im going to do the school run x

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