What’s wrong with me?!

[Str3bor]

so me and my OH seem to be going through a bit of a rough patch lately, we just can’t seem to go a week without an argument and it’s really getting me down and I’m tired of being upset.

last night we had an argument as he’d swapped days with the kids with his ex but hadn't bothered to tell me. We hugged me this morning and then went to work. Now he’s text saying he’s gone out for lunch, he’s going to leave his car and get a taxi with the kids to school in the morning - he needs to take 4 kids to school and himself so will either need a 7 seater or 2 taxis (I take the other 2 to a different school).

AIBU to be pissed off again? I think he should have just had his lunch and drove home so he could do the school run in the morning or have planned his day better so he got the train into work this morning so his car was at home for the school run. He will come home and say that I’ve got a cob on because he has gone out.

for context he is out on Sunday with his mates, out the next 2 Thursdays with work, we have 6 kids between us and it pisses me off that he just plans all these nights out and just expects me to have them all and then will just tell me what he is doing and expect me to just be there.

meanwhile I try and keep our child free days free so we can do something together yet he won’t plan anything with me, in fact I don’t even think he know what days we don’t have kids.

i have no issue with him going out and I’m probably jealous that he is out so much - I think I’m driving him away.

AIBU?

I know nobody replied to your post, OP, but did the poll help at all, seeing that overall people think you're not being unreasonable?

If you agreed up front that your role in this relationship is to be the one at home looking after all of your kids while he enjoys a life relatively free of planning around children, then YABU. But since you probably haven't, YANBU.

I'm taking a leap from the way this is written and assuming two are yours and four are his. Sounds like he is managing not to take responsibility for his 4 kids. And, even more of a leap, that's probably what killed his previous relationship too - but now there are 6 kids in total and not 4. You'd need to be working as a team to keep this fair. Especially as he should probably have two-thirds of the responsibilities to your one third.

You need a serious talk about how you reorganise all of this to make it fairer – otherwise you will keep having arguments every week.

Plus if you did drive him away you'd only have to look after two kids, not six.