Is DH being unreasonable?

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And this isn't a windup

DS has a v bad cold and can't go to playgroup tomorrow. I definitely can't get day off as we're ridiculously short staffed.
DH is self employed driving instructor. His first lesson tomorrow is at 1:30pm.
He's just asked me to ask the childminder (who looks after DS when he's not at playgroup) if she'll take DS from 8:45am tomorrow so DH can go to they gym.

My question - why can't he give it a miss just this once (he goes 3 days a week every week) so he can spend the morning comforting DS and making him feel better?

So far, no reply but I'm expecting something whiny & sulky

some men don't live in the real world do they

YANBU.

Will broach it with him again tonight and softly suggest he goes saturday morning instead and looks after DS tomorrow morning (not holding my breath)

DH being unreasonable.

If its his regular gym day I can see why he would be disappointed - we all need a break, after all - but your DS's need is greater. Plus its not fair on childminder's other charges. You could point out that it will effectively make the cost of his visit to the gym £20 in childcare fees.

YANBU He should have offered to do it straight away, not have you ask!!

YANBU - it is a pain when routines get thrown out the window when children get ill but tough.

He is not working so can do what he likes with his morning, you can't - there should be no discussion he stays home with DS. He should just do it. It won't kill him not to go to the gym once.

YANBU but your dh is! I'm a childminder and if the cold is so bad that they can't go to playgroup then he shouldn't be going to the childminder's either. I take mindees with colds all the time but I would not take a child whose cold was so bad they can't attend normal playgroup, as I'm out and about myself at groups etc. (it's naptime now ).

Men eh!!

Luckily DS is CM's only mindee at the moment but that's not the point. DH should still do the down side of parenting (snotty noses, whinging & vomit) as much as I do. I am something like 14-1 up on the being puked on front

Does CM have children of her own? I see it's maybe different if CM has just your ds but still, your right, that's not the point! I'd be furious with my dh if he suggested such a thing and well, there's no way he'd be going to the gym! Your poor ds would probably feel much better just chilling at home. Hope your dh comes round!

I would just say - briskly - that DS isn't up to it and he will have to stay home.

But tbh, I would leave addressing the bigger issue re the parenting to a time when its nvt a little tiny bit of a mini crisis. Best dealt with when everythings on a more even keel.

YANBU, if dh suggested this I'd me really mad.

To use a rather popular phrase on the AIBU board at the moment: he is being selfish and lazy.