She is lovely and we generally get on well but don’t see much of each other as they live about an hour away. Maybe see them once or twice a month, on average. She doesn’t work and keeps inviting me to activities in the daytime and evenings after work near her. Theoretically I could make it in the evening but it would mean leaving work at 5:30, arriving at hers around 7, going to the book club she wants to go to then driving home in the dark 40 miles ish and arriving home at 9pm or later. I’m not sure she recognises I would love to spend time with her, but I am working (a good 50 miles and some) away from her house during the times she is inviting me to things. She knows this and isn’t forgetful or anything like that.
She seems very hurt and doesn’t hide the disappointment on her face whenever I decline. It’s genuine I think rather than manipulative
What to do in this situation? I think she thinks I don’t like her, even though that’s not true!