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Noonetoldmeaboutit · 29/11/2023 20:46

Me and my partner of 4 years seem to going through a really rough patch at the minute, we are constantly arguing and I hate it.

we moved in together at the beginning of the year and it was fine at first but recently we just can’t seem to get on.

I feel like I can’t make any comment or show any signs that I am unhappy about something without him reacting and then it ensues in a full blown argument where we are telling eachother to go and find someone else, I generally get called a crank and then we don’t speak and end up speaking a few days later and the argument is not spoken about, we are nice to eachother for a days and then the next argument happens and the cycle continues.

i’m so tired of it and getting the point where i just don’t want to live like this anymore and i want to leave but then we make up and i carry on until the next time.

i just don’t know what to do, i feel unhappy most of the time. I feel like he just dismisses me and any issues i have and just goes straight for an argument instead of talking. It gets us nowhere and I just feel fed up. Should I be trying harder or should I just accept we aren’t compatible?

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pinkyredrose · 30/11/2023 17:58

i feel unhappy most of the time

There's your answer, you need to leave. It isn't working.

twirlywoop · 30/11/2023 18:00

Ditch him. Find happy

MatildaTheCat · 30/11/2023 18:02

i feel unhappy most of the time

What would you say to a friend who said this?

What options do you have regarding breaking up? Somewhere yo live? People who can support you?

Ultimately it is possible to split up quite amicably. You are incompatible. Presumably he’s not very happy either. Just make your plans and prepare for a few tough weeks or months and then a lifetime of relief you made that decision.

Verv · 30/11/2023 18:07

Life is too short, time to move on to something that makes you happy most of the time, not the other way round.

JohnofWessex · 14/07/2024 19:26

He sounds like my ex wife

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