AIBU to be annoyed at DH for doing overtime when LO and me are I’ll?

[GreenFrostedPlant]

Well that’s it really that’s the question.

Me and our 6 month old have been poorly this week and it’s peaked today! DH text me earlier asking how we were both feeling and I said pretty rubbish really.

Hubby then arrived home an hour and 15 minutes later than normal. “Sorry I was late.”

I like to think I’m not unreasonable and I never complain about him doing overtime, he’s got a manual job so when he gets home he has to shower too as he’s filthy so can’t really hold the baby. I’m feeling crap and I’ve had a poorly baby for 12 hours today.

I just feel like he could have been a bit more considerate. So AIBU to be annoyed?

So he did an extra hour overtime?

Was it just an hours overtime at the end of his shift?

Does he have a choice? Or is it a case of needing to finish a job or like me if a patient is on the table there is no choice?

Do you need extra money?

Your partner is trying to earn extra cash at an expensive time of year and you are annoyed about this?

With a new baby too?

Pick your battles and this isn't one!

To be annoyed over an extra hour is you being unreasonable.

I hope you feel better soon OP
its not easy looking after a poorly child when you aren’t feeling well.
However your H hasn’t been to the pub or watching football or playing golf..He’s been doing a hard Manuel job - it’s blooming freezing out there. Doing extra overtime, for Christmas?
He even messaged you to check on you both
gold stars as far as I’m concerned x

Yeah YABU you sound precious and ridiculous.

I pressed wrong button. I think you are unreasonable in this case OP

Like someone else said- pick your battles. This isn't the one.

Thank you everyone. 🙂

Yes he has a choice and no we don’t need the money.

I am more annoyed because he didn’t tell me. He always has his phone on him. I think I’m just feeling really rubbish.

Thanks again everyone for the reality check. 😂

It's really hard to look after a child and keep them entertained when you're ill. Could a family member or friend not come round for a few hours to let you have some rest? This is the reason you need a village when having a baby.

I think when you're feeling terrible and counting down the minutes until you've got backup, it's frustrating when they aren't home immediately.
I feel for you, it's rough when you're sick and a mum because the little tyrants don't cut you any slack. 😭