Boyfriend of 5 years says he never wants kids

[AutumnMeadow25]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years, we’re both 26 which I know is young. Topic came up about babies and he said he firmly doesn’t want children and never has.

It really upset me for some reason. I think I took offense to it in a way. I think i want to be with someone who wants everything with me, and I said it freaks me out to think we’d never start our own family.

i definitely don’t want children yet but might when I’m older. Is there way to get past this? I have a sinking feeling now that we want different things.

I think it's odd to never have talked about future life goals- marriage, kids, travelling, career etc. even at your age.

The good news is you're so young. Don't hang around waiting. If he's 100% set on not wanting children don't count on him changing his mind.

This is going to be a big problem going forward. Lots of people no longer want children. My 2 sons, my niece and nephew, have no intention of having children. Of course, they may change their minds, but its not looking likely!

OP, if you really want children, then you are going to have to find a new partner who is on the same wavelength. Don't fall for the "I may feel different in 5 years time" because it's very unlikely.

OP, there are so many posts on here from women who have waited for their partner to be "ready" for marriage/kids into their 30s. Yours has been honest with you, if it's a deal-breaker walk away.

I echo all of the above.

There is no way past it and no-one is being unreasonable.

He might change his mind, people do. He might agree to have kids, reluctantly, to save the relationship. But I wouldn’t bank on either, and the latter isn’t really great to be honest.

You have lots of time to find someone with whom you share the same goals.