to not really give a rats arse how other people bring their children up...

[rantinghousewife]

obviously it's upsetting if abuse and stuff if involved and I'm not talking about that. But normal every day things like whether they pick their nose or what sling they use. Why do some many people care what lifestyle choices other people make?

so they can feel better about there choices I suppose people need other to look superior to
TBH it really gets to me cause I dont care either

YANBU. Some people just like the impetuosity of jumping in and complaining about others.

Agree ranting-unfotunately we are under a lot of pressure these days- usually from mums judging each other

Ah The divine MrsR!

YANBU. At all. I have friend who is constantly sniping about how other people bring their kids up ( and consequently about me too I should think!) What they let them eat, what time they go to bed etc. I just am not interested. I agree that it's to bolster her own choices.

I care how other people bring their children up, because other people's children's behaviour will affect me and mine, for good or ill.

I don't care to the extent of getting get up about sling choices, but I think it's a legitimate concern for just about anybody. What isn't legitimate is making wildly prejudicial judgements.

Of course YABU. I KNOW am right about my views on parenting and childcare and everyone who doesn't agree with me should be pointed at with wagging fingers

i do agree policywonk

Ellieg
PW, I take your point on collective responsibility, I agree with you on that, totally.
But to expend energy worrying about what time other people put their dcs tea on the table or whether they FF or not just seems a lot of effort.

Oh ranting

I care about children being bought up safely and responsibly and being taught right and wrong

but does one fruit shoot make a bad mother does feeding it from a bottle impact their social behaviour in later life I dont think so

MInd you I am more laid back than that because I dont care what car you drive either though I can understand why other might and think there reasons for it are sound

PB, you have just eloquently typed out my thoughts there. Don't get more wrong, I do care about the important stuff. But honestly I think some people have too much time on their hands.

since becoming a mother I have surprised myself at how little I care about how other people raise their chidlren (provided as stated it isn't abusive) and what other people think of how I raise mine.

I was much more judgemental before!

I would never have had you down as the judgy type Kew.

Really?! My real name is Ms Judge of Judge Street, Judgy town...

I laugh now when I think of how I (silently) disapproved of some people with chidlren.

I am much more sympathetic to parents with screaming children in public now Far more likely to offer them a cup of tea now than a frown!

It only bothers me if it has a negative impact on me and/or my children. Otherwise live and let live.