I don't know if I am the odd one.
I have had my fair share of horrible exes - one who sexually assaulted me, an ex hubby who tried to blackmail me, a cheater and someone emotionally unavailable.
However... I dont excessively bad mouth them at all. I acknowledge the way I was treated was bad, but I don't "hate" any of them, or wish them any harm. Ive moved on. They're an after thought now.
But my boyfriend. My god!
There are a couple who he has never said a bad word about, but the two exes he had before me, if they're brought up, is just massive slander.
He will tell me he hates them. He will tell me he wishes he would receive news that they're dead. One of them recently had a baby and he said she'd be an awful mother and contemplates ringing social services.
These are women who, one cheated on him and the other was a brief 3 month thing that fizzled out but he took offence at her moving on really quickly.
When I see my reactions vs his, I am genuinely confused. Mine have seemed so much worse where police were involved, restraining orders, messy divorce etc but I dont care enough about them to have a feeling towards them.
How do I shut down this type of behaviour?
Or am I the strange one?