Carrie Bradshaw?

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So I know it’s been debated to death of what a toxic person she is and bad friend and this thread is nothing to do with that.

Aibu to think it was really odd that you barely knew anything of her life before NY? She briefly touched on her father leaving but her mother is never mentioned or makes an appearance and whether she has siblings or half siblings,

I just find it odd to have a main character and have no background to them.

She’d probably been on MN and advised to go NC! Or rather, given how bloody painful and self centred she is, they’ve gone NC with her…

I feel all of the characters had moments with each other without Carrie, but most were with her as she was the main character. If you recall when she moved to France they were still meeting up without her (similarly when she was engrossed with her other relationships). Also it was mostly Miranda and Carrie who were "besties". They were all independent woman (yet also not), that was the beauty of the show

That's why it was a good show, it didn't follow a standard format. I'd also say that it would be very plausible for there to be 4 women living in New York, LA etc who weren't that close to their families (although it did elude Charlotte had a normal family relationship). Lots of people aren't (just look on MN!). I actually thought it was a very clever show because it started off revolving around sex, but actually the characters developed and it was about different types of relationships. The final two episodes were particularly good. The bit where Miranda washed Steve's mother in the bath, and Magda said "that is love". Perfection. As you can see I've watched it a few times 🤣

It did seem realistic that women at that stage of their lives - 30-somethings without children or married - who didn’t live physically close to their parents/siblings wouldn’t have their families play much of a part of their lives.

id always assumed Miranda knew Carrie from a long time ago /poss college as I couldn’t work out how she ended up part of the group. Charlotte working in art galleries, Samantha in PR and Carrie being a former “IT girl” now journalist, all had careers /lifestyles that would put them in contact with each other in their 20s so that by 30s (early 40s for Samantha) they could have developed a friendship group.

Miranda was the only one who’s career wouldn’t lend itself to putting her in the same circles, unless she’d be the “plus one” of one of them.

Posted too soon! But I like that we don’t know the steps that ended up with these different women being friends.

There's a book and TV series called The Carrie Diaries about her life as a teenager.

@LimeCheesecake Carrie met Miranda when she (Carrie) was working in Bloomingdale’s dress department and found Miranda crying in the changing room.

OP I've decided you are right. it is somewhat unbelievable that a character would NEVER make any mention of her mother over several years of significant events. it's almost a bit of a flaw in the writing, as they do touch on family for other characters.
Is it because Carrie was based on a book character initially, and they never elaborated beyond that initial character? (whereas Friends characters' backgrounds were made up FOR the programme and could be filled in however they decided)

I quite liked that.

I've never lived in NYC but I've lived in London and in another large European city.

I was always a little bit homesick, but was surrounded by hordes of young people, like the SATC girls, who were just forging a new life for themselves and seemed to barely give their families a second thought.

I lasted two years in London, two and a half in Europe, and then was glad to get home to my family and the familiarity of home. I had a great time, had lots of friends and was out socialising a lot. If I needed help of some kind (lift somewhere etc) I would ask my friends and often somebody would help. I just accepted it as the way back then, but looking back at myself now I think I was very vulnerable and also very alone, in a way that I didn't really see then.

The friends and acquaintances I made over there just didn't feel this way. They are still there, most of them see their families at Christmas each year at the most. Their friends are their family.

I guess this suits some people and not others.

In the Carrie diaries her mum has died and her dad brings up Carrie and her sister