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AIBU TO KEEP £17?

44 replies

roofusdoofus · 26/11/2023 11:57

I recently had a friendship breakup, but the breakup was a long time coming! We fell out many years ago until she apologized and we rekindled, but the same issues kept occurring if not worse and I eventually decided to call it a day between us. She’s not a very nice person and more recently I discovered that she’s actually a bully prompting the breakup.

I was on her car insurance and everytime I used her car (a total of three times), I would fill the tank up and buy her a coffee to say thanks. One of the first things she said when we did fall out was that she’d take me off of her insurance, which I had absolutely no issue with as it made sense.

I paid to go on her policy (£64) and her insurance company advised due to a rate change that there’s £68 due back to her policy, that they put against her direct debits. I asked her to transfer me £60 and she decided that she was going to kick up a fuss with her Insurance company because she wanted the refund to be returned by card and not direct debits, she said she wanted to speak to someone more senior and kept ignoring their callbacks.

To cut a long story short, I got tired of begging her for the money back and sent her a final message today. She responded that she’s tired of me hassling her (I’ve only messaged her twice for an update) and that it’s not fair on her because this doesn’t benefit her only me (despite her being the one to remove me from her policy).

She sent me £60 and then said I’m only due £42.17 pro rata back despite the insurance company advising £68 was due back in total due to a rate change. She then asked me to send her £17 back but instead I have blocked her on everything.

My only issue is I have tickets on her sisters ticketmaster account belonging to my parents (she had artist presale and we didn’t) that can’t be transferred yet and I do worry she’ll try change the password or cause hassle, but she knows they’re my parents tickets so I’m hoping she won’t!

AIBU?

OP posts:
Fraaahnces · 26/11/2023 13:12

Tell her you’ll send it back when you get your parent’s tickets.

FuckingHellAdele · 26/11/2023 13:13

Fraaahnces · 26/11/2023 13:12

Tell her you’ll send it back when you get your parent’s tickets.

Why would she do that? She's already sent her it back.

FeetupTvon · 26/11/2023 13:24

Is it honestly worth all the hassle over £17??
Live and learn and take it as a lesson to never befriend her again and don’t get overly involved in any future friendships as you clearly have this one.

ActDottie · 26/11/2023 13:35

strawberry2017 · 26/11/2023 12:01

For the sake of the tickets give her the £17 back

This

BubbleBubbleBubbleBubblePop · 26/11/2023 13:54

What a lot of drama. Just give her the £17 and wash your hands of her.

howdoihowdoi · 26/11/2023 13:59

roofusdoofus · 26/11/2023 12:03

I used it three times, with her, she was in the car each time - I never used the car without her!

Why did you only use the car when she was in the car? Why didn't she just drive it then?

grumpycow1 · 26/11/2023 14:04

so much drama! Just send the £17 back for the sake of your parent’s tickets. I don’t understand either of you, you sound very immature.

Createausername1970 · 26/11/2023 14:10

howdoihowdoi · 26/11/2023 13:59

Why did you only use the car when she was in the car? Why didn't she just drive it then?

I was wondering this. It sounds like OP paid for the privilege of being a taxi driver - and OP paid for the petrol as well!

OrigamiOwl · 26/11/2023 14:14

There's basically no chance you/your parents are gonna get those tickets

Kissmystarfish · 26/11/2023 14:36

roofusdoofus · 26/11/2023 12:06

The company didn’t refund it pro rata though, if they did I’d accept that.

You used the car though?!? So why are you asking for £60 back?!?

im so confused. Just send her the £17

drowningfrowning · 26/11/2023 14:38

Good grief you sound petty. I wouldn't have expected the refund at all. I would have seen it as something she gets to keep for being kind enough to let you use the car. And now you've been over refunded you don't want to pay her the £17. So you wanted her to pay you but you don't want to pay her? You sound awful. And about 10.

oldfatandreadyforarevamp · 26/11/2023 14:44

Surely the point of being on her insurance was so you could use her car when she wasn't in it?

Birdcar · 26/11/2023 14:47

roofusdoofus · 26/11/2023 12:11

£17 sent back!!!!!

Well done. You're the bigger person and she's not worth the hassle.

kitsuneghost · 26/11/2023 14:55

How very petty of all of you

Galatine · 26/11/2023 14:55

Forgot the petty £17, pay her and move on.
I think you both need to grow up!

Tiedtoatwat · 26/11/2023 15:10

Let her shove her £17 where the sun don't shine!

Why on earth were you on the insurance policy in the first place? I've never had any of my friends on mine, nor have I ever been on theirs?

DoDoDoD · 26/11/2023 15:39

roofusdoofus · 26/11/2023 12:03

I used it three times, with her, she was in the car each time - I never used the car without her!

But you wouldn't have had any use of the car if she hadn't let you be on the insurance, and would have had to take out full insurance yourself if she hadn't let you be on hers. So stop splitting hairs for the sake of 17 quid and give it all to her.

TooManyBastardingFucksToGive · 26/11/2023 15:59

roofusdoofus · 26/11/2023 12:06

The company didn’t refund it pro rata though, if they did I’d accept that.

They refunded her due to the rate change and you, pro rata, for cancelling the insurance. They’ve just paid one lump sum.

Just give her the £17. I don’t know why you are expecting that you should have been allowed to use her car without paying any insurance.

The petrol and coffee is a separate issue.

TooManyBastardingFucksToGive · 26/11/2023 16:00

Slow Typer 😏

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