I have a work colleague with whom I work closely every day. We have an excellent working relationship and get on incredibly well. There's a lot of genuine fondness on both sides.
And that's why I don't want to feel the way I do, though I suspect it's my fault - at least in part.
Her children are a bit younger than mine, and I've been known to give her some items of clothing in good condition that mine have grown out of. Obviously I check with her first, and she accepts them. For example, a pair of good quality trainers that still have plenty of life in them. I never took money for these; as far as I was concerned, I'd got my money's worth before my child grew out of them.
The other day, she was looking on Vinted for a winter jacket for one of her children. I knew I had one at home that mine never really wears, and offered this. It's absolutely beautiful and in mint condition. It had cost a fair bit of money, which I told her.
I did expect her to offer me something for this. I really did. To my mind, it was different to the other items offered as it was high-end and barely worn. I wouldn't have accepted much. It was originally over £100 and I'd have been happy with 20, or even a voucher for a local coffee shop. But I feel a bit taken for granted and resentful. I KNOW I should have brought this up with her, but it's awkward and I was a bit taken aback. I'm also annoyed at myself as I'm usually pretty assertive. I even hinted that I would sell it on Vinted if it didn't fit her son. Nothing.
I feel that, on this occasion, my kindness has been taken advantage of, but AIBU?