A lady in her 60's now, only 1 of her adult children speaks to her. She isn't allowed to see her other grandkids ,and Gradually over time her other adult children have not allowed any access of their lifes. She has been known to put condoms in pockets of her adult sons so their girlfriends find it, to cause trouble. And other items of clothing to make it look like their son was cheating to cause trouble with girlfriends.
She used to say things to grandkids like that are lies. Out in shops, she walks past and says 'did you hear that lady? She said your kids need a slapping" but no one else ever hears it. She makes stuff up that someone's said about you or someone you know, you know it's a lie but it's to cause problems. In the past she has alienated her children and changed her surname to new boyfriend and all her kids, lied to social and court that she was beaten so bad ,and lied her to her very young children so they grew up hating their real father. He tried to get contact. Problem is it's hard to cut Contact, as it's not my family, and this person will not see what I see and what others tell them.She even goes as far as telling people that one of her sons and wife were beating their child and locking them up, this isn't true. they live 1000 miles away and don't allow her to visit for response like this. She literally alwAys makes stuff up about people, I can see 100% why contact needs to stop. This lady can't help lying constantly and causing trouble.but how do I deal with helping someone see that? For the sake of their own kids?