DH and I went out for a few drinks, met some friends, all well. On the walk home, DH sees a guy bothering some younger women and shouts over the road to intervene. All decent behaviour up to this point.
The guy then walks over to DH, and they square up to each other. At this point I pull him away. But no, DH goes back for more, he keeps yelling offensive words across the steeet as he’s walking away for the whole town to hear, they end up in a minor scuffle and finally it de-escalates with my DH walking away still yelling. DH is so angry and doesn’t cool off at all. I am absolutely mortified and very much turned off by DH’s behaviour, he slept on the couch and seriously considering going to my parents for a night to have a breather.
AIBU to think DH should be able to control his response and to expect him not to cause massive scenes in the place I live work? He says as a woman I can’t understand the response and pressure to defend yourself. He also hasn’t made any effort to apologise, or AIBU unreasonable making it about me?