Unreasonable to be a bit pisse off?

[CyberCritical]

DD is 9, surprise contact from one of her friends mums this morning saying they were off for a walk, would DD like to go too. Sounds great, off she goes.

Then get a call to say DD is a bit upset, turns out at some point they've been driven to another town to a friends house, DD is shy and feeling nervous about all this.

Am I unreasonable to be pissed off that instead of a short walk to a nearby park my child was taken in a car to a strangers house without me being told?

Did you ask where they were going? When were they being dropped off etc? I’m not sure id be crossed they’d invited another friend without telling me?

The mum took them to the park 5 mins down the road, that's what I was told. Then I find out when DD is upset that they've actually been picked up by a family friend, driven to a nearby town about 8 miles away to another family friends house. DD doesn't know any of these people besides her classmate.

That is a little strange. I'd be annoyed you weren't asked if it was ok for her to go somewhere else, and what time she might need to be home by.

YANBU. You can't just take other peoples children to strangers houses without informing the parents. Wtf

Bloody hell you need to play merry hell with them

You just can't just take other people's children to someone else house whithout parents knowing

It's like kidnap 😳

Well almost like it

@MermaidEyes @Hermittrismegistus @cerisepanther73 that's what I thought. I've done play dates before both where I've been the parent in charge and where DD has gone to someone else, and it's always been the case that everyone knows where the kids will be and with who.

I also know that DD is getting older and didn't know if it was more normal at 9yo and less expected to communicate whereabouts??

I just can't see myself ever taking someone else's kid to a different location without the other kids parents at least being aware that we'd be out and about.

I’d be livid OP. Your DD clearly had a gut feeling this wasn’t right and she was going somewhere you were unaware of hence her reaction. I’d have strong words with the parent and give them a wide berth from now on.

Yeah I really wouldn't like that.

I would be pissed off. Best thing to do is just not let her go with them anywhere again i think.

What the fuck? Oh no, that's not on.

Good general consensus that I'm not BU which is nice. Navigating kids growing up and expanding boundaries is like being dropped in a shark tank and I wasn't sure if I was being overly protective and hovering.

Not on, I’d be furious

I’d be livid too. You don’t know these people. You don’t who or where they are. They could be sec offenders. Unlikely- but it should be you that make that call.

I would be annoyed at this.