He always replies a day later

[AmyJahabee]

been chatting to a guy on WhatsApp for 3 weeks now, we’ve not meet in person yet. This thing he always replies a day later even if I reply straight away to keep the conversation going and some fun questions. He will always respond the next day (usually with good engaging message) as if it’s a rule. Personally I feel it will drag the process of knowing each other

Three weeks? I’d say not meeting is going to stop you getting to know each other, not his messaging.

That would drive me mad. Can you ask him why he always takes a day to reply?

I feel like not responding again at all and just delete him, can’t be bothered a bit boring

Tell him you've won the lottery.

Stop messaging and speak on the phone.

Yes, if you want to have a conversation, that's what talking on the phone is for.

I like the way you think.

You do need to meet, as that’s how you’ll get to know him. Some people just don’t like text conversations. When I was OLD, if we’d not set up a meeting within a week, it was bye bye.

This is me. I don’t have push notifications on my phone (don’t want “Darren from Humberside is trying to send you a dick pic” to pop up while I’m at work) so only check for an hour every evening.

Presumably tho you reply more than once in that hour?! It's just rude to message someone, they reply straight away and then you just ignore them for 24 hours!!!

No offence, but I suspect you’re probably not the only one he’s in conversation with. I’d also get the impression he’s not that into me or serious about dating if he’s taking that long. I’d get fed up with that. Why haven’t you spoken on the phone or arranged to meet yet? From personal experience I’ve got on really well with guys over messages and then in person the connection/attraction just isn’t there.

It's either a rule or he's only logging on to that particular phone / account for limited period per day.

If it's on WhatsApp do you see the little blue ticks that he's read it or not? Can you see 'latest active' or any such data?

Also you say you've been chatting on WhatsApp, I assume you've migrated from a dating site and haven't met in person? Please be extremely cautious. Some accounts aren't even real people!

IMO You need to speak via video chat and then also meet up in real life ASAP for a little coffee date, 45 mins max for the first time. People get drawn into things because of text / email chatting and it can create a whole false identity or fantasy.

The consistent delay in responding suggests to me various things - an extremely controlled and 'game playing' person (avoid) -or- someone who is otherwise committed and is using limited access to a second phone account to 'date' -or- an account that is restricted and may not even be one single genuine person - in those situations you can get lured into handing over money or personal details that facilitate fraud.

Stick with your intuition in all circs.

Actually just checked last seen on WhatsApp he’s online 2 mins ago and I messaged around 1pm today I suppose his response is coming tomorrow at 2pm

Call his bluff with.

"I'm really enjoying messaging, but much prefer to chat in person. Here's my number 086543357890, I look forward to talking to you properly. If not the good luck and all the best"

If he doesn't ring, block him. He's taking the piss.

Suggest you move on from text to speech. He knows your number from WhatsApp.

Wake up. He's training you and you're going along with it.

I'd come straight out with and make a direct inquiry - how comes you always take 25 hours to reply me?

If this person is controlling or a fraud they're going to turn it on you and say something like 'wow you seem really needy, are you like this with everyone?' -or- 'it's a perfectly reasonable and healthy thing to do, what's your problem?' -or- 'are you upset with me?' (last one is an insidious game played by people who want there to be a drama where there isn't one so you start to feel feelings that you don't even have).

A healthy person will say, oh I limit my time on whatsapp chats with dates to one set time per day or sometimes it can get a bit intense a bit quickly. Or, oh, I didn't realise that's weird, let me think about it... do you prefer immediate replies?

It doesn’t matter if he replies 24 hours afterwards or he inundates you with feverish replies - you will have no idea about him until you meet. Suggest a coffee. Although if he reads your suggestion and leaves it until the next day to respond, block him five minutes before his allotted reply zone!

He's not interested. Delete and block.

Three weeks? I only gave guys three messages to ask for a date. It won’t go anywhere

Got a response last night at 23:30pm I was already sleeping. I message 12ish Friday afternoon. I don’t feel like responding. He’s asking for a phone call for this afternoon and to meet over weekend coming. I’m taking his response time as not interested and not that into me, so I don’t want to bother

Has he been reading this thread!

Replying 23:30 is bad manners to someone you don't know IMO

Why don’t you go through with the phone call and see how that goes?

from my experience my ex wasn’t keen on his phone, but at the start he always respond within reasonable time we have back and forth message and throughout our relationship.

Hmmm, I'd be wondering if he suggested talking and meeting because he had been drinking. But there is only one way you are going to find out what he is like......