Friend has fallen out with me

[dakotamotor]

I work with my friend and she’ has a new job and her leaving do is tonight, I don’t feel well tonight so I’ve cancelled and she’s messaged to say she would never have cancelled on me if it was the other way around .. and that she always makes an effort (came to my birthday and to meet my brother last week who lives abroad)

Ive messaged her again to apologise (she’s not responded) and messaged a mutual friend who’s going and she seemed annoyed with me too.

I don’t know what to do, I feel bad but there’s no way I could go out drinking how I’m feeling.

I’m amazed how many people know the OP has a car, or even a driving licence, without her having mentioned either of those things.

I guess it depends.
I have a couple of friends who I can guarantee will pull out of all events last minute, and I’m getting less tolerant of this.
but if you’re genuinely unwell then it sounds like she’s being a bit unreasonable.

Are you flaky? How did you explain your illness? (If you told me you were poorly, I’d think you were being a baby. If you told me you had thrown up twice, I’d understand).

People who constantly pull out of events at the last minute are annoying…I know someone like that and I’m sick of it, tbh.

Bit if you’re genuinely ill, I’d much rather that you stayed away instead of potentially infecting everyone!

Stop apologising. Friend needs to grow up!

Exactly.

How sick are you? A leaving do for a close work friend is one of those things you don't pull out of unless you really really have to.

Is there some back story missing? Like that you've done this kind of thing before?

More information needed, OP.

Do you often flake out?

Does she always make the effort for you?

It sounds like the answer to the last question, at least, is yes.

If you've been in work with your friend today then I think you're being very unreasonable to pull out at such short notice. If you've been ill at home, I think it's very different and you shouldn't be going out.