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: Ds's school are rewarding the class that raises the most money on Friday with an extra playtime

26 replies

DrNortherner · 12/03/2008 21:01

It's for sports aid. Kids are being encouraged to take in as many pennies as they can muster and will fill sports aid socks. Class that collects the most wins extra playtime.

This is a CofE school and I feel it's not very christian to only reward those who collect the most.

AIBU to think this is a bit off?

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Hulababy · 12/03/2008 21:05

I agree. Reward should be for effort put in, not for total amount raised.

I would actually comment to the teacher about my feelings about it too.

janeite · 12/03/2008 21:07

You are totally not unreasonable. I complained when my daughter's school did something similar.

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DrNortherner · 12/03/2008 22:00

Thanks guys.

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Ineedacleaner · 12/03/2008 22:03

The thing that annoys me about this is that it is not the childrens reward is it? It all depends on whose parents give the most pennies. Some children will afford more than others, they should all get an extra playtime or none at all.

WideWebWitch · 12/03/2008 22:25

It's fking bullshit, incentivising CHILDREN on CASH? It's completley missing the point about charity imo

LittleBella · 12/03/2008 22:32

Well I'm not surprised that a religious school is going back to the old traditions of rewarding children whose parents give the most money. After all, if they systematically keep out poor kids by breaking the law on admissions, they're not going to be nice to them once they're actually in the school, are they?

Shocking. There seem to be more and more threads like this - children being rewarded for parents' contributions. It's a bloody disgrace.

frasersmummy · 12/03/2008 22:34

I take brownies and the powers that be did something similiar.. brownie who raised most money in a pack to be rewarded.

I refused to take part. We had a little brownie who was in care. She took her sponsor sheet round her friends at school and raised £4.20

All the guiders agreed this £4.20 meant more than the sponsor sheeets with £50/60 from grandparents etc on them..

I would be saying something to the teacher about her principles

Ineedacleaner · 12/03/2008 22:38

Oh frasersmummy that brought a lump to my throat.
Definately worth much more.

LittleBella · 12/03/2008 22:39

Photocopy the parable of the widow's mite.

The fuckers have obviously forgotten it.

HuwEdwards · 12/03/2008 22:41

No you are being entirely reasonable, that's shit Dr N.

TheHedgeWitch · 12/03/2008 22:52

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edam · 12/03/2008 23:01

I'm with the majority, this is Not On. Sends a very bad message IMO.

Very touching story, Frasersmummy. Hope things worked out for the little girl, she sounds fab.

milkgoddess · 12/03/2008 23:31

totally agree its out of order.

sparklyfairypie · 13/03/2008 12:53

i think its out of order, people shouldnt be bullied into donating

MrsTittleMouse · 13/03/2008 16:17

Agree with little bella - a reminder of the widow's mite would be well in order here.

agnesnitt · 13/03/2008 17:02

The annual fund-raiser at the school my daughter attends is vile. They do a sponsored-something and the child in each class who raises the most is awarded a prize, the class which raises most is awarded a prize, as is the child who raises the most in the school.

I've told them I empathise with their fund-raising needs, but refuse to do the sponsorship. I just gave them a fiver for the fund and explained my views.

Agnes

mrsdannydyer · 13/03/2008 17:07

FM, that is so sad.

hotcrossbunny · 13/03/2008 17:16

Doesn't this go along with the Golden Boot challenge (or whatever its called) - it penalises those children who live too far away from school to walk, or whose parents drop them off on the way to work. By all means, incentivise(have I just made up that word????), but reward the whole school's effort.

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DrNortherner · 13/03/2008 18:27

They have drummed it into the kids

Ds is frantic about taking as many pennies in as possible to help his class win the extra playtime.

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MrsDanvers · 13/03/2008 21:27

Agree this is a terrible message the school is sending out. you (and other parents) really need to let them know it's not on. It's not a very Christian attitude is it?

LittleBella · 14/03/2008 13:27

hcb, the golden boot award can still be got by a class where there are children whose parents live too far from the school to walk all the way, if the parent parks 5 minutes away from the school and then walks the last 5 minutes. It's designed so that everyone can participate, however far they live.

hotcrossbunny · 14/03/2008 13:51

Oh thats ok then LittleBella

tori32 · 14/03/2008 13:54

No YANBU because some parents may not be as well off as others and have to contribute less to their dc efforts and also may know less people to ask IYSWIM.

StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 14/03/2008 14:53

I think its bad - undermines the ethos of "its the taking part not the winning that counts" that is important.

MotherFunk · 14/03/2008 14:57

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