To think I am going to live until I am 83?

[girlfriend44]

Background. Years ago I had one clairvoyant reading at home, and one thing she told me that stuck with me is that I will live until I am 83.

Since then, Ive never bothered with anything like that, and am rather sceptical/critical of people that claim to know the future. Wouldnt dream of having a reading now.

My question is this remark she made stuck with me. Ive kind of believed it and often think to myself that is the age I shall live too?

Am I being silly, or is there any possibility I might?🤔

@girlfriend44

There are statistics which will be more reliable than a clairvoyant

https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/healthandsocialcare/healthandlifeexpectancies/articles/lifeexpectancycalculator/2019-06-07

I think I'll live to late 60s, maybe 70 at a stretch. I think this stems from my Mum dying young and I have no blueprint for anything else. That said, I would rather die younger than expected than older than expected, I have absolutely no intention of becoming very old. Being very elderly terrifies me, dying does not. Not sure why but it just doesn't. Of course Murphys law I'll probably be 104.

I'm not sure a responsible or competent clairvoyant would tell you this but I don't know much about them so who knows!

I did an online health test recently that told me I'm only going to make it to 64. I was a bit surprised given there's nothing really that wrong with me that losing a stone wouldn't fix. Felt quite gloomy though and wished I hadn't bothered!

Think I might have a "best before" and I am few years past it!

Am I being silly, or is there any possibility I might
Both. Unless you have a significant health issue there's every chance you could die at a pretty average 83. You are being silly to think a charlatan who plucked that number out of the air has any ability to know the future.

I think you should forget about it.
You could die at 73 and that would be shit because you'd be thinking you had 10 more years left to live and you didn't.
So you should live every day fully and not be thinking about when you are going to die.
Or you might become reckless because you think you're going to be 83 because some clairvoyant charlatan said you were, resulting in some nasty accident falling off a rockface when you're 51 due to you thinking you're invincible for another 32 years.

How old are your parents? Are they still alive? How old were grandparents when they died? Do you live a healthy lifestyle? That will tell you more than a clairvoyant.

A self-fulfilling prophesy is a thing.

You might accidentally make is so, by stopping caring about yourself so much as you get close. Taking less care over your health because "I'll be dead soon, so no point bothering."

A fortune teller came to my parents door selling “lucky white heather. She soon realised she’d get nought from me, I was probably about 9 or 10 at the time. But she said something woo about my fortune is written on my Bonny face, and told me I would marry for love, not money (correct) and have four children (incorrect). There was other stuff, too, but I don’t remember it all.

Does the Clairvoyant refund if she's wrong?

My GF insisted he would die at 70. He lived begrudgingly for another 23 years.

FIL was convinced he would die at 84, because most of his relatives had died at 84. That was a truly miserable and depressing year. Every little health concern was massively magnified "This is the one that will do for me."

He is now 88, with several serious health conditions (that he already had at 84), but tough as an ox.

time.com/5656767/blood-test-longevity/?amp=true

I’m 44 and have a strong belief I’ll die at 78. I’m fine with it as long as I outlive my husband (who only expects to make it to 70 max, the lifespan of his longest lived grandparent. He’s 46 now) and my cats. I find it weirdly reassuring to have an idea and means I don’t get too hung up about my pension contributions!

I doubt she would still be alive by the time OP is 84 (unless OP is very old or she was very young!)

I'm like this, bar the beige food. Eat lots of sugar though.

Too many 80s and 90s in the family.

my 85 year old mum thinks my lifestyle won't save me from old age and we're just cursed. We will see!

My mum and her friend went to see a psychic. Friend absolutely loved it, got told lots about her future - jobs, children etc. when my mum went in she only heard about her past. Mum left quite miffed as her friend had the 'better' reading. My mum died a year later.

DM saw a fortune teller when she was in her late teens, told her she'd marry a tall dark haired man and have 2 children, one of each. Also that she'd live until she was 122 and use a walking stick! The first two things were correct but she's only 80 atm and doesn't use a stick.

Of course there is a chance you will live to 83. But there is a much bigger chance that you won't. Maybe the last thought that runs through your head will be 'that lying cow!'

83 doesn't sound unreasonable anyway. Lots of people even with poor lifestyles make it to that age. Not always a great quality of life. I'd say I live quite a healthy lifestyle but there's lots of history of heart attacks and strokes in my family and I'm on bp medication at 39 so I'm not expecting to make it that long. Both granddads didn't make it last early 60s. Genetics has a lot to do with it.

literally the only thing that could make this true is the fact that you have believed, and internalised what she has told you. Our brains work in a very interesting way. Looking at it simply, think about the placebo affect. Our brains have a function that is not even fully understood yet but our belief systems hold a very powerful influence and form our whole reality. If I were you, I’d change the way you’re thinking about this. Find a way to let it go

My late husband was just short of 83 when he died and he had a heart condition and various other medical problems.

There's every possibility that you will live longer than that.

There is a possibility of course. Every decision has an influence on what can happen though. So also a chance you could 'change your fate' by going on a different course. You could live less, live til that age or live until you're older. She's picked the average age for women to die which is probably done knowledgeablely not spiritually. I did tarot cards a couple of times and yes what I predicted came true but it was alot of working out the most likely outcome for the person with that particular card. Only weird thing was I had known my now husband 2 days and predicted we would be married which sounded ridiculous but is hilarious as we have been married 15yrs and together for 22yrs but it was only the most likely scenario for me for that card. I could of said it meant something else. The future isn't certain so enjoy life, don't get bogged down in what can or will happen.

I had one tell me in my very early 20's that I would have 6 girls, it stuck in my head for the last 15 years but I had 2 boys instead.

I was once told that they “didn’t see children in my future” and it was due to something that had already happened (implying there was something wrong medically that would stop me having children.
I was 21 and didn’t care at the time but it always played on my mind as I grew older and actually worried me when I met my now husband and he said he wanted children. I actually cried and told him I wasn’t sure if I could have children.
anyway….i now have a beautiful 2 year old and am 11 weeks pregnant with my second.

Same here.