I know I'm not BU but need a rant.
My mum lives in another country, we don't see each other from one year to the next, but I grew up close to her until I was around 20.
We have other distant family that live near me. They are actually my dad's family from his first marriage, my mum was second marriage and he is now remarried again. To give context as to the relationship. We did not grow up together nor did they have a particularly close relationship with my mum before she divorced my dad.
My niece from that side of the family is getting married tomorrow around an hour and a half from where I live. I was invited but could not make it. I knew muy mum was going.
Anyway, it transpired she arrived yesterday, 2 full days before the wedding, to an airport which is 20 minutes from my house, and did not tell me or make any plans to try to meet me. And it was my youngest son's birthday yesterday!
AIBU to feel hurt that she has travelled all this way to see distant relatives and made no effort to see her daughter or grandchildren?
I'm gutted. Actually, I haven't seen her since summer 22.
She has form for being selfish and narcissistic to be fair so I shouldn't be surprised.