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Play group upset

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CLC22 · 23/11/2023 16:27

So today I took my daughter to a play group for the first time as I’ve just moved area and there is one actually close by to us now.

My daughter is 1 and walking so she was happily playing independently, I could see her playing. The women of the group shouted me by name infront of the whole group of people and told me to watch my daughter as she was ripping the notice board with nothing on it but a boarder.

This made me feel so upset, embarrassed and small. Am I been unreasonable to be so upset about this? It made me feel like me and my daughter were the nuisance of the group and I won’t be attending again because of this. Thank you for reading & please be kind. Anxious mum 🥺

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sushiburger · 23/11/2023 17:04

I think you have had a name change fail

usedtobeasizeten · 23/11/2023 17:05

YABU.

myotherkidisacassowary · 23/11/2023 17:10

Nevermind31 · 23/11/2023 16:39

If your DC is destroying the room you need to stop her. You weren’t, so she told you.
there is no need to feel small or anxious.
it was brought to your attention, you could stop it.

Only on mumsnet could a child ripping some paper off of a notice board be described as ‘destroying a room’ 🤣

I can tell you’re really worried OP but I would try to let it go. I expect she shouted because she wanted to get your attention quickly, not because she wanted you to feel bad. These things can feel so awkward and uncomfortable but everyone else will have forgotten already.

I would give it another go. If you still don’t like the atmosphere you can leave it, but give it another shot first. You might meet really nice people and friends for your daughter.

WillowCraft · 23/11/2023 17:23

Hmm I think they were a bit unkind. Who leaves a notice board at floor level in a toddler group anyway. They should have gently removed the board from the child and put it somewhere safe. The whole point of toddler groups is you don't have to watch your child like a hawk. I never heard anyone shout across the room at a toddler group.

Having said that, it probably wasn't meant unkindly, the person probably just has poor social skills. Don't let the incident put you off if you otherwise like the group.

IncompleteSenten · 23/11/2023 18:21

It's fine. Your daughter was doing something they didn't want her to do so they told you to stop her.

Small kids are always doing shit like that and sometimes parents need to be given a nudge. Im sure nobody there thought it was a huge deal.

Prinnny · 23/11/2023 19:55

CLJ22 · 23/11/2023 17:00

@Prinnny i agree it is down to me on how I feel. I’ve always been anxious after the birth of my son. I wasn’t watching my daughter ripping up the notice board I thought she was playing with the water table and I didn’t know she was doing it otherwise I would have stopped her. The form had to be filled out on the day as it was a form on who was attending the play group. I understand I’m been unreasonable. With been upset. It’s the first time ever attending a play group and I just didn’t like the way the attitude came across from the women. Thanks for all the replies

We’ve all been the mum of the feral child of the day at playgroup at one point! Don’t let it put you off going back, be kind to yourself :)

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