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To feel fed up and unloved

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Workingmum994 · 23/11/2023 14:24

Or am I being too sensitive?

Diagnosed with ME/ CFS. Trigger seems to have been a sickly pregnancy and bereavement. I live with my partner and 17 month old. I work part time 24 hours a week. The rest of my time is caring for my little one.

I get people don’t always believe in ME/ CFS, but I can honestly say, it’s so real for me. I’ve had to quit activities because of this stupid illness and I’m so fed up.

To put it bluntly I feel my partner thinks it’s a load of shite.

I feel guilty if I’m having a bad day/ flare up. He tells me I have to just get on with it, as I have no choice. I tell him how I feel, how achy, tired, sore, brain foggy, I am. It always seems like a competition to him. He asked me if I wasn’t diagnosed with it, would I still be acting the way I am..

The main issue I have is that he shows no empathy, or understanding. I explain to him that I need his emotional support in terms of checking in on me and asking how I am, but he says he knows how I am because I tell him all the time and it’s clear I’m not well.

He has been better since I’ve explained this to him, but I wonder how long it’ll last for.

Maybe I am the problem? He says that I can blow very hot and cold, and I know I can, but it’s often because he is judging or criticising my personality and I feel attacked.

I tell him that I don’t feel loved and I feel he doesn’t like me.

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