Two different house warmings?

[Captainobvious35]

Hi guys,

Me and my partner are soon moving back into our house (been renovating for the past year) and we’d like to throw a house warming. We already know the neighbours as we’ve owned the property a few years and are local to the area anyway. I’d like to do two house warmings - one for the neighbours and our families (our families know our neighbours/each other quite well) and a different one for our friends. Partner wants to do one big one and invite everyone.

I’m not keen for a couple of reasons:

• lots of different groups/ages of people who don’t know each other makes it more clique-y and you feel the pressure to make sure everyone is mingling/nobody is sat alone not knowing anyone
• the house is probably big enough but it would be crowded with everyone in one go

Would be keen to hear what you all think? AIBU to want to do two? I love a good party and will chat to anyone but when I’m hosting and have to do all the intros and make sure everyone’s happy, I’d rather make my life easier!

Any tips or ideas for a decent house warming also appreciated ;)

Thanks all x

I imagine two housewarmings would piss off your neighbours.

I'd do one- if you do two then your neighbours have to put up with the noise from the other one (or from both if they don't come to the neighbours one!)

I'd also be worried hardly anyone would come to the neighbours one, but that's my personal anxiety.

I'd do one big party and buy some catered platters of mini food with a waitress or three to pass them around so you can relax and be the perfect host!

I would do one if it were me. You aren’t likely to have a lot of neighbours coming anyway, and those who do will probably only pop by for a bit to be polite. It could be a bit of a damp squib, whereas if all your friends are there too it will be lively and fun, and you won’t mind if the neighbours don’t show or only put their head in for an hour.

I'd do one party. I wouldn't expect neighbours to stay for the whole duration. Most might pop in for a bit to be polite, have a few nibbles and then scarper after an hour. Friends and family might of course stay longer.

I'm doing two when I move in. Very different friends / family groups.

I’d do one. Neighbours can’t be upset about a party that they are invited too

No, just one. It's a pain in the arse organising everything twice. And if you have the friends round first the neighbours will be pissed off that they're not invited.

I’d do one - same as the reasons above.