Nephew 5 dummy

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Nephew is 5 and a half. Still uses dummy everywhere outside of school. Sister is unapproachable re topic. His speech is already affected.

I know some children really struggle with giving it up and parents at wits end but sister and BIL see no issue. My sister talks to nephew in baby talk, broken sentences etc I think she wants to keep him a baby. I have 2 kids myself, I understand to some extent.

At this point though I think pure parental laziness, they haven't even given him the chance to give it up.

YABU-None of your business let them do what they want, deal with any dental problems later

YANBU-poor parenting, neglecting child's needs

Poor parenting imo

I’d be more concerned about the baby-talk.

It's very poor parenting but what, exactly, do you think you can do about it? He isn't your child and you can't tell other people how to parent.

Well its not ideal ,do school have any concerns about his speech?

Poor parenting, but none of your business IMO.

I had a dummy until l was 6. My df died when l was for and dm had too much to cope with. So not always bad parenting,

I speak and enunciate clearly and had very straight teeth.

So sorry to hear this. That must have been so traumatic for you and thats brilliant you have no long term effects.

Yes but of course according to sister its nothing to do with dummy. They probably don't know he uses one!

I know, you're right. I don't know what I can do, I've mentioned it to my mother who is defensive of my sister (always is tbh!). I work in healthcare so I know this just isn't right even from a psychological point of view.

Yes and he's quite bright, she refers to a drink as his 'dinky' and his shoes as 'shoe-shoe', baba for baby etc

My dd had her dummy til she was 6, her speech wasn't great but you wouldn't know that now. No regrets here.

My dd2 also used one (latterly only in private at home) until she was coming up to 6. She’s long grown up, her teeth were always perfect, and it certainly didn’t affect her speech as a toddler - she would chatter non stop.
I well remember my DM when dd was 3, saying to her, ‘Where do you get all your talking from?’
Dd thought for a moment - ‘From my mouf!’ 😂

Thanks for replies and I know definitely there will be plenty of stories where people didn't have issues but it kind of reminds me oslf situation when people say they smoked all their lives but didn't get cancer, that's great that they didn't but there is a known higher risk.
As with this there is a known higher risk of problems. Its actually stark reading when you Google as I did this morning 🙈
I think I'll just have to keep my mouth shut although it's killing me as he absolutely has speech issues already. My son attends speech therapy for the past 8 years (not related to dummy use) and I know how hard it is on him. My nephew as similar problems which are self inflicted (via his parents) and its making me sad and angry tbh 😢