My soon to be ex husband had two affairs throughout our marriage, both with other married women, the last one was a work colleague. The fallout was catastrophic. Both marriages failed and five children across both terrible upset. We’re now fourteen months down the line and I’m attending counselling as I found it really hard to cope with the deceit - they had slept together in our marital home whilst children were sleeping upstairs - just really awful behaviour. Now that I’m emerging from the fog, I’m starting to think that there may have been more affairs - most namely with another married colleague. I remember about three years ago, when I thought I was in a happy marriages, meeting th is colleague at a work event and recognising her name as someone my then husband talked about as uber stressed, incapable mess etc. I wanted to be polite so introduced myself and her face went white and later she had to go home as she felt terribly unwell. Now this could be totally totally unrelated but at the time, I remember thinking I got an odd reaction from her bur couldn’t put my finger on why…