To worry I was rude to cold callers

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They knocked on the door and it was dark. They claimed to be from a well known charity. Think it was legit as they were in uniform. I said, sorry not interested in a bit of a blunt way. He replied, what, not interested in helping charityname?

So I said, we already donate to the charity shop in town. And pretty much closed the door in his face. It was rude of me but I was having a bad day, not that it makes it any better, guess he was only doing a job. Now I am worried and think maybe they remember the addresses of people who were rude to them!

He’s the asshole for not taking no for an answer. And for showing up at your door, in the dark no less. Fuck those people.

A wise friend once said to me, nothing you do to chuggers is wrong.

No, you're fine. They're chuggers . They're interested in their commission not the charity. I have a ring doorbell and won't answer the door too them so I don't have to listen to their crap.

No different to spam telephone calls in my opinion.

He was being rude. Presumably he had already told you which charity he was from before you told him you weren't interested. His reply was meant to shame you for refusing to donate.

I doubt he was genuine anyway. I'm sure it's illegal for charities to cold-call in this way and they are certainly not allowed to pressure or shame you into donating.

I have done the same. They haven't been back. Job well done, as far as I am concerned.

Charity door knocking should be abolished, people feel guilt tripped into signing up for regular donations that they can't afford.

And I am not a mumsnetter who doesn't answer the door.

My guess is he was probably a scammer trying to get your bank details.

Agreed.

Anyone who comes to your door unasked and starts trying to guilt you because you won't give them money is a twat and deserves everything they get. If anything you were too polite I would have just ignored them completely.

I tend to be marginally more polite than that, but not by much. They're cold calling 🤷

Had a driveway cleaning person the other day
"Are you interested in having your drive done?"
Me: "Not really, it's on the list but it'll not be any time soon"
Them: "Do you want to keep the leaflet or not?"
Me: "Sure 😀, we'll want it doing at some point. Have a nice day 👋"

I don't think I've had a cold caller last more than 1 minute at my door. I tend to think of it as me doing them a favour, I let them know quickly that they won't be getting anything from me so they can spend their time more productively elsewhere.

Don’t feel bad. It’s one thing to be approached by chuggers on the street - at least you can walk away quickly - but when they’re in your face, on your doorstep, it is completely unacceptable.

This. I slammed the door in the face of one who asked me why I didn’t care about children.

They shouldn't be door stepping people after dark.

A firm 'no thanks' is not rude at all.

I am just as abrupt as you were, if not more so. Tney are used to it. Better for them if you say no straight away than them wasting their time on you.

In any case, I really do not approve of door-to-door salespeople as a way of getting people to sign up to direct debits. There is a huge amount of pressure and exploitation in the industry, both of the general public and the people going door to door, while the people running the companies dispatching the fundraisers make money.

https://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/wales-news/exposed-hidden-camera-uncovers-exploitation-27386308

I've had this at about 6pm at night. Trying to finish up dinner, dark outside, not a convenient time, not appreciated. I don't want to have to explain my financial situation or justify my financial choices to random strangers who knock on the door!

Charity door knocking should be banned…I had one the other day who looked very put out when I told her quite bluntly no thanks. I find it incredibly invasive and actually end up thinking less of charities that use this tactic. So no you weren’t rude, they’re rude for cold calling and trying to guilt people on their doorstep into donating!

You're not in the wrong op. I once explained to a chugger I gave £1000 at once to charity (true, from savings and it was a lot of money to me) and couldn't physically give any more and they STILL wouldn't leave me alone!

I always start by saying sorry, I never sign up to anything on the doorstep. I know for a fact nothing they say will change their mind, so saying this straight off saves their time and mine.

The last one I got was from a breast cancer charity, and after I told him I wouldn't sign up to anything, he gave me a speech about how many women's lives are ruined by breast cancer. So he got a speech from me in return about how he was alienating men with breast cancer by making this so completely woman centric. It's difficult enough to be a man with breast cancer without just being overlooked in pretty much every single fundraising campaign.

He left pretty soon after I finished my speech. If he'd not tried to push me in the first place, he'd never have got the speech at all.

As soon as I've opened the door I say "no thank you" and close it. So I salute you OP. You were perfectly reasonable so don't give it another thought.

I will never engage with any cold caller of any sort, can’t stand them.

Same as on the phone. I'm so sorry, I don't accept unsolicited calls/visits. Goodbye.

We used to get loads of this in our area and i was dreading it when ds was born and trying to get him down for naps/feeds etc so I put up a no cold callers sign on our door, it's just a wee silver sticker that matches in with the glass but so far I've only had one caller ignore it in the last year and a bit so maybe worth a try?

More of us should be rude. It’s a crap job but they choose to be pushy. Was it Save the Children? I had them say the same thing “So you don’t care about children?”. DD was 1 at the time and on my hip. I said “No” and closed the door

Me too. They don't get chance to say more than half a dozen words before the door is closed.

Chuggers are trained to see politeness & good manners as weakness, so never apologise to them, thank them or accept anything they try to give you. Just say ‘no, I’m not interested” in a grumpy tone & shut the door in their face.

I never feel bad about being rude to cold callers. I didn't ask them to shove themselves in my face.

I always close the door to chuggers

They always knock at the worst moment