Social plans and sick kids

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Two under 5s with flu. DH has had to take several days off work and has been stuck at home with them (DW work is such that it’s very difficult to take time off). Weekend arrives, kids still ill. DW has her brother staying. DW and brother have longstanding plans to go to her parents house for the day. They were meant to take kids but kids not well enough for the bus journey. DH has cabin fever and doesn’t want to spend another day at home alone with grumpy children. DW brother wants to go to his parents for a change of scene. WWYD:

A. Invite parents over instead.
B. DW stay home with kids. DH and DW brother go to DW parents.
C. DH does the childcare again, DW and brother go to parents.
D. Brother goes to parents by himself and everyone else stays at home.

A or D

Would the parents want to visit if DC are ill?

Does DH get on with DB and parents?

If I was DW I would give DH the choice of what he'd like to do and forget about the visit to DPs ... disappointing but that's the dilemma with parenting.

D plus DH goes out for a bit of a break. A coffee, a walk or whatever else they fancy for a few hours.

D. Brother goes to parents by himself and everyone else stays at home.

Except DH gets to go and have at least an afternoon to himself dong whatever he so chooses.

or C. DH does the childcare again, DW and brother go to parents.

if DH is willing and gets the whole other weekend day completely to himself.

B or D. If kids are ill you can't invite parents over (and actually I'd be cancelling the brother coming too)

D

And DH gets a day off

Option E.
Rearrange the dates?

Brother goes to his parents.

Wife stays home with the sick kids

Husband stays home but gets to catch up on work, go out for a bit, get a break from the sick children

It's only Wednesday anyway, so they might be OK by Friday.
Children can get over a cold quite quickly so plans could still go ahead.... If they're just a bit sniffly I'd go ahead with the plans.

This is in the past. Just trying to work out what the fairest solution was.

What's the point of trying to work out what the fairest solution 'was' .. if it's all in the past? Presumably you are feeling unhappy at whatever happened.. maybe it's time to move on?

Well we are still arguing about what the right solution was!

D

How long have you been arguing over it??

If the visit to the parents happens once ay war, it's really complicated etc I'd expect DH to suck it up for one day but then gets freedom on the second weekend day. If it's 5 minutes down the road, reschedule.

I think B or D, whichever husband prefers.

Oh lord. I'm glad I read this before putting too much thought in to the OP. Definitely time to move on if it's in the past.

B or E brother goes alone, DH gets to recharge by doing what they want.

DB goes to parents alone
DW stays at home with the kids
DH can leave the house to get out for a bit.

The DH has done his bit easily in the childcare already completed. He's due.

(Unless there's a reason you hardly ever see your parents).

So, he can choose. If he wants B, then that , but if he wanted E - dw stays home on childcare whilst he had a day to himself, then that.

Cancel the brother, or see him without involving whole day out to parents.

Well tell us what you did in the end and why it's causing so much angst ...

D is fairest. Assume C is what happened as that's the only unfair option.