I'm just projecting. I need somewhere to post.
Separated from abusive exh in September. Police called but no charges have been made.
Exh has not seen ds (5) since the day I called the police. I have obviously not been pushing for contact.
Today he got in touch and asked me to start to file for divorce - he's got a new girlfriend. I have already spoken to a solicitor and I'm just waiting on my legal aid and then will start proceedings. That's fine, he just wasn't happy I was using a solicitor.
He then asked if he could see ds on Saturday. I replied with 2 things:
- if he wants to see ds then he can but he is not allowed at my house and i do not want to see him. He knows this already. He can collect ds from my mum and drop off with her.
- I said that it is not good seeing ds for an odd day. He hasn't seen him in 5 weeks now. We need to set up a regular day and time which is for the best interests of ds.
He responded that he never wants to see my mum ever again so we will just leave it.
My mum has done absolutely nothing wrong. She did a hell of a lot of ex H in the 8 years we were together. He thinks that she's been twisting things and has been putting crap into my head and that's why we are no longer together. Which really is the opposite. My mum is as soft as anything and can't see how abusive he really is.
So anyway, I gave him his chance to see ds and that was his reason for turning it down.
He also told me that he wants nothing to do with his older daughter anymore. I can't remember his exact wording but he said he 'can't fucking be doing with her' or something along those lines. I'm very close to her still - I class her as my daughter and always will. She's 18.
I just can't get my head around how bad he is. I know he's bad but it's almost like I'm numb to it all.