AIBU to think that DS shouldn't go back to school tomorrow?

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DS (5 years old, in reception) has had a bad bug. He was vomiting at the weekend and had a fever on and off.

He is 48 hours clear from the last vomit and fever. He was a bit better today but still not completely back to normal. He was off his food and would only eat a bit of toast. He had a little bit more energy than previous days but spent most of the day watching telly.

DH thinks DS should go back to school tomorrow. I think we should give it another day as he wasn't entirely recovered today and finds school full-on and tiring at the best of times.

DH has really odd ideas about sickness absences (he thought DS should go to school on Monday even though he was vomiting on Sunday) so I genuinely find it hard to tell if IABU. There aren't any problems with childcare if we keep him off (DH isn't working and I can use flexi time to take the afternoon off so DH can have a break and do the shopping etc.).

YABU = Send him to school
YANBU = Keep him at home

If he's not eating then he should be at home. Food is energy and is required for healing, physical activity and mental learning. Your DH is an idiot.

Yeah, keep him at home until he seems well again. Your DH sounds like my old fashioned parents who think that life should be hard and people should tough everything out. Why? Totally weird perception of things and it's illogical.

Sounds like he needs another day.

He still sounds ill, I vote stay one more day at home.

Not the point but why does your dh seem so keen to send him in, if he isn't working - and if he isn't working why does he need a break in the afternoon? He's not coming across well in your op

I'd keep him off another day, school is so draining. You shouldn't have to take time off work when the other parent is at home (providing he doesn't have his own illness/disability). He should be able to keep an eye on a child tucked up on the sofa watching TV. You do the shopping on the way home from work.

If he’s not eating he needs go stay home.
If he’s not well in himself and his behaviour is significantly different to normal (laying watching tv all day rather than running around going crazy) he needs to stay home.

YANBU you're right he definitely needs another day at home he still hasn't recovered trust your own instincts op hope your little boy feels better very soon

Pointless to send him to school, he won't learn a thing while he's not eating and has no energy.
Don't understand why you would when childcare isn't an issue.
Hope he's better soon, wee lamb.

I had this last week, even though they were 48 hours clear they still weren’t right, gave them another day and it made all the difference. Keep him off as long as you feel is needed, no point in being in school if not up to it.

If he was at Secondary school I would agree with your husband. But at 5yo, he won't learn anything until he's properly better

After having the sickness bug recently, I felt awful for a few days afterwards. I could barely eat which made me have no energy. I didn’t go to work as I still wasn’t well.

If your ds isn’t himself then don’t send him. He will just be upset and you’d risk the school phoning you anyway to pick him up.

If he was up and about, playing and wanting lots of food then of course send him but if childcare isn’t an issue and he’s still not well then keep him home.

rule I had was they had to be back to properly eating before they went back to school, if he's still not right don't send him.

I am strict and pack DS off to school unless he is feverish/genuinely unwell. He’s had about 3 days off over the past two years.

But I’d keep him off for another day in your situation. He doesn’t sound fully over it. He needs to be eating properly and keeping stuff down to be back.

I hated mine missing school but in your situation, I'd keep him home.

Sickness bugs are awful and even as an adult can really take it out of you! I’d be keeping DS off again for another day in your situation.

I also would not be using flexi time to give DH “a break” in the afternoon. He’s a parent and looking after his sick child is just as much his responsibility as it is hours. Completely different if he was taking the morning off work and you taking the afternoon off to balance things better with work…but he’s off, therefore the childcare is his responsibility IMO.

If it were me I wouldn’t make the decision until tomorrow morning. If he’s bright and eating breakfast and running around like normal in the morning I’d send him in. If he’s still down on power and off his food I’d keep him off.

This is what I would do too.