Gave birth to DD at home 10 months ago. I didn't plan a home birth but was sent home from maternity unit to progress due to only being 2cm dilated, and I gave birth at home 4hrs later. She is my first DC.
The ambulance came just after I'd given birth and took me and DD to hospital to be checked over. Looking back I was definitely in shock.
When I got to hospital, I hadn't delivered the placenta and the midwife said she'd need to manually remove it. I asked for some pain relief, given the fact I was in shock and had just given birth to my first child un-medicated. She told me not to be silly and that I didn't need pain relief for it.
When she removed it, it was painful, although it was fairly quick. I'd had some gas and air in the ambulance and just wished they'd let me have some while they removed the placenta to make me a bit calmer while she did it. It's honestly the one thing from the whole birth that sticks in my mind because I felt so violated (?I'm not sure that's the right word but I can't describe it...I just felt like a task to be done or something)
I had one small tear that needed looking at and so after removing the placenta, she reached up into the cupboard next to me and got out the gas and air for me to have while they looked at the tear, so it wasn't like she had to go and find it or something like that.
Do you think IABU? Is it better not to have pain relief while they do that?