When people split up and live in the same house as their ex partner

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Should they be able to date other people (not inviting them over the house) but able to receive and make quick phone call or do you think that it is disrespectful ?

I was dating a guy and whilst he had been to my house several times and met my (younger kids) he refused to answer my calls if he was in the house and his supposed ex or 26 year old daughter was home.

Was I being reasonable to say that I should have split up with him or am I being unreasonable not letting him be respectful where he lives.... to be honest I'm not even sure why I'm wasting my time doing a poll... I am just curious to know if I am being unreasonable or is he. Thanks for voting.

Are you sure he has split from ex? Unable to take a call is VERY suspicious.

He's married.

No I don’t necessarily agree with the above posters. Last year I broke up with my ex of 6 years and we lived together 4months after splitting up because we were on good terms and neither wanted to move back with our parents straight away. I dated at the time but never made it obvious to my ex. I wouldn’t take calls etc with him there as it felt disrespectful and overly harsh

Yes I think he was right, they may of separated but he doesn’t need to go running her face in it, would admire him for his respect as the less honourable types take great pleasure in doing so

Our DD is still living with her ex.She says it's because they get on so well but I don't think he can afford to move out.

I don't know what will happen if either of them meets someone else.

I lived with my ex for a couple of years after we divorced due to neither of us wanting to move out.
I dated other men and took phone calls etc.
We weren't together any more, so it had nothing to do with him, any more than his life had anything to do with me.

This is the thing, I do understand where he us coming from and I was in exactly the same position as him and again wouldn't overtly take a phone call from him if my husband was in the same room but would have gone and made a phone call else where, to be honest with you it seems like its the daughter who he is scared of upsetting most and I honestly didnt want to meet them or go round there but it just felt like my feelings were totally disregarded. We broke up in July, Id not seen him since June and I saw him last week we went for dinner and I must say, up until last week I was totally madly in love with him.... He has declared his undying love for me and said he wants to marry me..... sadly I'm now not sure how I feel having seen him and I suppose I'm just wondering whether he could actually be telling the truth.... its funny we spent his birthdays together and away, spent valentines day together every year and the last three new year eves together .... I'm not sure how he could have wangled those nights if he was in a serious relationship (they had been together 10 years had 2 kids then they separated and he lived with someone else for 10 years and went back to the family home 10 years ago...... I think it was him going to IKEA with her that made me leave... isn't that strange what triggers things....

I really appreciate your replies and was expecting different.... It just all feels like such a sad thing to happen ..... to fall out of love with someone over things like this... we got on so well besides this.... I have 3 daughters and had had a horrible marriage and just want to show my kids healthy boundaries and relationships....

To be honest would of expected him to move out by 3 years, thought you meant a few months just until they had sold the house etc, yes 3 years is a long time to wait around in that kind of relationship