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EmmaG38 · 21/11/2023 16:19

We had my DD in Jan 2020, we chose her godparents together, these were a married couple of my family friends (more like my aunt and uncle than friends really) my sister, his brother and his best friend and wife. Due to the chaos of COVID restrictions and having my DS in Dec 2020, and then family life, we never actually got round to the christenings but we have already asked these people to be godparents to both DC's and said when everything got back to normal we would arrange the christening, everybody agreed and was happy with this decision and being unofficial godparents.
Yesterday I came home to DP in foul mood, he started a massive argument about me applying for my daughters school without involving him, this is not true because we sat and discussed that we could put my his son (my stepson) down as her sibling as he would still be in the school when she started next September, I double checked his birthday because I always get confused with the date, and asked for his EX's address. There's also only one school she is in catchment for so there isn't really a choice on where she goes anyway. He started having a go because apparently I don't ask his permission when making decisions etc.
So I come home this morning and he announces that he's just asked someone that I've never met (though he's told plenty about him) to be my DC's godparents and they've agreed. I'm honestly not sure what has p me off more, the fact that he had a go the night before and then did the exact thing he's had a go at about, or the fact that this particular person has the worst values that I've ever known, and really don't want around my children. DC's are going to be 3 and 4 this Christmas and they've never even met these people despite living a mere 5mins away, they have done nothing for us or the children, unlike thier originally chosen godparents, am I justified to be annoyed?

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WiIIowT · 21/11/2023 16:25

Did he know you were applying for school? Specifically?

Either way, he's obviously just being a brat now.

EmmaG38 · 21/11/2023 16:30

Yeah he definitely knew it for school, because we had to work out of his son would be in the junior school, or upper school when she started next year. The infant school only count siblings if they will still be in the infant or junior school when she starts in September.

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memyselfi · 21/11/2023 17:07

So this is revenge ?
That's really weird .
Is he lying just to wind you up ?
Obviously they can't be godparents without your consent anyway so it means nothing .
It's so juvenile.
What outcome would he like ?
A different school?

EmmaG38 · 21/11/2023 18:20

Honestly I don't know what his goal is, but knowing him he probably will have asked this person, and if he has I'll feel awful telling them no because he's just lost a family member and to then be told that your not going to be godparents as well would be horrible. I'm just sick of him acting like a child and making stupid on the spot decisions and then me looking like a monster because I've said no.
I wouldn't have thought it's about the school because he's said from day one that's where he wanted them to go. He did start rambling on about the fact he hasn't had any emails about when her first day is, or what time she has to be there, I told him that they haven't closed applications yet so they're not going to be sending out any emails about starting times as they haven't even allocated places yet, but apparently that was not a valid reason.
I did go upstairs to ask if he'd actually asked them or he was just winding me up but he's taken himself to bed so it'll have to wait until tomorrow now

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