To feel anxious that he's cooled off or am I the one that needs to relax?

[KeiraKnightley2]

A month and a half ago I spotted an acquaintance on a dating app and we matched! 🙂

He asked me out immediately but we had to postpone because of my imminent trip. Then when we had a date set he had to cancel due to a funeral he had to travel to (this 100% checks out). I just said let me know when you're home and we'll go from there.

He messaged a week later saying he was coming home from the airport this Sat and could meet me on the way back! Nice and keen but I'm going to a show so suggested Sunday instead.

He replies 'Reckon Sunday could work. Will double check tomorrow.'

'Tomorrow' (yesterday) came and went and tumbleweed. Am I right to feel anxious? I think I'm feeling a bit triggered because he was so consistent before and because I really do like/want to see him.

I don't know why you are feeling anxious. The obvious thing would be to send a text asking if you are still on for Sunday.

Just check back with him and ask if it's a goer or not. Don't overthink these things.

If you feel anxious and triggered are you sure internet dating is for you?

Just message and ask him to say 'Did you check to see if you're free Sunday?'

Of the three times you've been unable to me, two of those occasions were because you were busy, not him, and he's continued to ask to meet, so it doesn't sound to me like he's cooled off, really.

Way too early to say if he's cooled off as you're at the stage where neither if you are, or should be, a priority to the other. Its perfectly normal at this stage in the game to have a vague wish to see someone if mutually convenient while not falling over yourselves to make it happen. It's perfectly normal not to have texting you to arrange Sunday as his top priority. Hes keen enough to have suggested two possible dates and be checking his availability for a third option. Agree with pp, if you want to know if he's free Sunday, ask him!

@Crunchymum yes I'm fine as long as I take breaks. I met a guy for a first Tinder date last week, no issues at all.

@ManateeFair and @Pinkdelight3 think you're right - I don't want to look too keen if he's cooling off tbh - but at the same time I like this one enough that I'd rather reach out at least once to make it happen.

I couldn't be arsed with gameplaying around looking too keen. You want to know so ask, there's no shame in it, and you're making yourself anxious not doing.

It shouldn't be this difficult before you've even met! I would say you need a thicker skin to use the apps OP.

In theory that's true @sweetpickle23

But in reality:

My trip had been planned for months
He sadly had a funeral
His work requires him to travel until December

I'm not sure any of that could be avoided but yes it's feeling a bit complicated.

I didn't mean the circumstances, I meant the angst and worry about it.

Yeah @Pinkdelight3 think I just need to swallow my pride and ask him.

I hate that feeling of being passive and having to play it cool. I must say that I've never got anywhere from chasing a guy - but in this case he's already shown a lot of interest

Ok I messaged him. Now off to get a grip. 🙂

In all seriousness I haven't been feeling great lately as a friend of mine died in October. My mental health is usually fine but has taken a dip.