To refuse to do family days out with ex?

[Greenhouse12]

My partner recently downloaded tinder so I’ve made it clear our relationship is over. I’ve not trusted him for a while and it’s been the nail in the coffin.

we have a 1 year old and are currently still living together he wants to wait a few months before selling the house due to interest rates and also asked that we continue to do family days out.

am I being unreasonable to say no? He can obviously do family days out with our dc but we are not a family anymore because of him.

I secretly think he thinks I’ll cool off and we’ll make up before the house sale but my feelings for him are well and truly dead i really couldn’t care less I’m not upset in the slightest except for our DC I only stayed with my partner this long as I wanted our child to grow up with both parents together.

because I don’t have feelings for him anymore I’m not really sure how to be? I’m not even angry even though part of me thinks I should be.

Hes now your ex
And one of the things that means is you don't do goings together - days out, birthdays, Christmas, holidays, they'll all be separate now

Ha! What a pillock! 🤣
No, I wouldnt be doing cosy family days out either. Nice try, but actions have consequences.

Action: destroy the family
Consequence: family days out no longer exist

Bed made, now he lays in it.

It's best for your child that you have a clean break.

I still did family days out with my ex after we'd split up and we continue to do Christmas together even though DC is an adult and we've both remarried. I know this isn't a usual set up though. Each to their own.

God no, confusing for the kids. My ex wanted us to go on a family holiday after we split. Batshit. Don't do it.

Why? So he doesn't have to be bothered arranging and doing stuff in his own?

Nope… he needs to know that he is no longer part of YOUR family. He has his own one with the kids now. That doesn’t include you anymore.