sick of family entitlement

[leavemealone1]

first of all i literally cancelled my entire wedding and eloped instead because the whole ‘you invited x therefore you need to invite y and if you don’t i’m not speaking to you’ etc just flipping spiralled out of control and i couldn’t be bothered. now i’m pregnant and don’t want everyone to know because i’m enjoying the peace this time round without everyone asking questions about my uterus, and my mum found out accidentally (toddler told her) and now she’s pestering me to tell my grandma after already pestering me to tell my dad. and she keeps dropping hints at them about it so i’m going to end up backed into a corner and i’m just sick of the toxic behaviour

just can’t believe she was the last person who i wanted to find out and she ended up being the first to know because my little girl blabbed 😭😭 so frustrated

Don’t back down. You’re a grown adult capable of making your own choices about who you tell about your body. Maybe have a sit down conversation regarding enjoying your pregnancy in private and you will tell your news when you feel ready. If not tell your mother that if she cannot respect your wishes whilst you’re carrying the baby then she shouldn’t expect to be a huge part of its life when you’ve had it. It may sound harsh, but do not let yourself be pressured into something you don’t want to do by your own mother especially when this seems to be a reoccurring issue. If she has a problem with what you’re telling her instead of vowing to make a change then you’ve got to consider that she cares about her own wishes and happiness over yours. The woman needs a wake up call that tells her she can’t control every situation. Or you can live having her micro control every life decision you ever make, but you’ll just end up resenting her even more.