Hi- really hoping someone can help! I’m probably overthinking this all but I’m just a bit worried and could do with some outside perspective!
just for some context, my extended family have always been SO kind and generous to me-really beautiful and generous gifts for birthdays, Christmases and special occasions. I had a really difficult childhood and was sort of adopted into this family and everyone has always been exceptionally generous to me.
I was the youngest cousin for a long time until my other cousin had kids. We don’t usually buy gifts for each other as cousins- it’s always the aunts and uncles who by gifts. So when my new cousins were born, none of the other cousins or my siblings ever got them presents for birthdays or Christmases because that’s how we usually do it, but I did because their parents were always exceptionally generous to me when they didn’t need to be. So I got my cousins some nice presents for birthdays and Christmases because it felt like the right thing to do and I sort of gradually stopped doing it when they got to the age of 5 or so. But now my other cousin has had a baby and I’m aware I previously got my other cousins stuff until around 5, so I don’t want to leave out my new cousin because that’s not fair on them (or on my other aunt and uncle) but then at the same time it might look mean getting presents for her and not the other cousins (who are now 6/7) but if I start getting presents for them again then it might look a bit weird because it was just a small token thing when they were really young and none of my other cousins do presents
ahhh- I’ve definitely over thought this all!! I’m in my early 20s and im being ridiculously stupid about this all but I don’t want to cause any offense or upset.
can I just get presents for my new cousin? Or would that look unfair for my other cousins??
TIA😊