This is a long standing issue but I think that I have reached the actual final point of it and I'm genuinely interested in any measured / wise advice.
Throughout our marriage my husband has always placed his family first. He doesn't see me/his kids as being on the same level.
Things were starting to get better between us but midweek last week I had a sudden emergency operation. It took over 3 hours and I was very weak and in pain after. It was also quite a shock.
On Saturday I was still not fit enough to get up and out of bed and was also on a lot of strong painkillers. He decided he had to go (to a different city) to his mum's (she lives with family who help her and has lots of extended family locally to help) because she had a bad back. He upped and went, leaving the house a tip and no food for me or the kids. I normally get supermarket delivery but hadn't been able to even do this on the app as was too unwell. I managed to send one child to a friend's for the night to be looked after. The other two teens sort of managed and helped me a bit as well, one of them put food in the oven. Had to pay a lot for an Uber to take one to an important commitment on Sunday as I was not able to drive (medically) and it's not on public transport routes.
Husband rolled back home Sunday afternoon then hasn't really talked to me since but has brought water and soup.
I've actually completely had enough of his precious mum always being placed first when when she has dozens of people around to help. AIBU.