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AIBU?

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Or was friend inappropriate?

5 replies

foreverdusting · 19/11/2023 23:44

Friend was upset that I’d had to cancel going to her house wanting (I double booked, I apologised profusely, I told her two days before, I said I’d try to do both but didn’t want to promise, I’ve have already seen her house so I’ve made the effort in that sense too just for context).

I rang her in the week, it wasn’t mentioned. We went out to breakfast this morning with a mutual friend. Had a great time, laughing and catching up. When maybe after an hour she said that needed to talk about the weekend and me cancelling and how I should have kept checking in with her (I did also text on the night to say I was stuck where I was and so sorry again.), it wasn’t a nice thing to do, how upset she was.

it completely ruined the entire atmosphere and we left after maybe 15 minutes. Also I’ve never once flaked on her ever. I definitely want a friend to tell me if I’ve upset them, but she had the chance when I called her, not in front of someone else and I kind of feel selfishly ruining everyone’s catch up.

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foreverdusting · 19/11/2023 23:44

Sorry should have said *friends timing was inappropriate

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roseheartfly · 19/11/2023 23:55

Tell her.

Yanbu

haribosmarties · 20/11/2023 00:08

YANBU

Sometimes people do have to let their friends down for whatever reason but u look at the bigger pictureIf this is the first and only time you've ever not turned up to something you said you would for her then she's being batshit acting this way about it.

OrderOfTheKookaburra · 20/11/2023 01:13

"I'm not perfect and I occasionally stuff up. Which I did by accidentally double booking. You know I didn't do it with bad intentions and I have already apologised profusely. But the way you brought it up at lunch felt mean and I feel very hurt by it."

But then I have had 1 friend who acted like an arse and she apologised when I called her up on it and we met still wonderful friends (and she does the same to me as well!). THIS is what true friends do. They forgive!

And I told a different friend to take the friendship and shove it because she accused me of lying and playing mind games with her over something she misunderstood. I don't want a friend whose immediate assumption is that I've been deliberately horrible to her.

Pinkpinkpink15 · 20/11/2023 01:17

She sounds like a bloody drama llama anyway, it was a house warming not an important occasion FGS & yes, totally inappropriate to bring it up when she did!

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