Neighbours being a PAIN in the back

[IamOopsieDaisy]

We have moved to a new place (first floor flat) in May (me, my partner and our 3 year old daughter). On day 3 the neighbours from downstairs came up to complain that we have been noisy (unpacking furniture). Recently we got another text message when we were taking a bed apart. And today we got a message in the morning because our daughter was noisy (she run to see her grandma). The neighbour texted “I suggest you take your child to a playground and not use the flat as one, it’s 7:50 am on Sunday”. A little background - my daughter is a pretty chilled child. And we as a family are very considerate, I’d like to think. AIBU to think that they are just super sensitive and a right pain in the a**???? Any ideas how to deal with it? We baked cookies after the first complaint but now I’m just fed up. The “stomping” is not consistent ever, my daughter goes to a nursery 5 times a week from 9 to 5! This makes me just want to move out tbh.
the neighbours have no kids and are probably in their mid 30s.

What flooring do you have? Is it carpeted. Hard flooring can sound very loud. Perhaps you could ask to stand in their flat whilst she runs across to see what they are talking about. But ultimately you have to be able to “live” and as they are beneath you, they will be able to hear you.

Ignore. Don't respond to anything by phone, don't answer the door. She can "suggest" what she wants. I suggest she doesn't live in a downstairs flat.
I would make sure I had decent carpeting with thick underlay/rugs down but it's not reasonable for them to expect people to creep around their own house.

Btw, we are renting. And yes, hard floorboards but with rugs everywhere already to minimise the noise. Still not good enough… we are on the first floor, they (two guys) are on the ground floor.

Exactly that too! It comes in a package of living in a flat… they sometimes play loud music after 10pm, I’d never say anything because I know our daughter bothers them so don’t want to escalate it to some sort of neighbour war!!

They sound like absolute Moans! We are a ground floor flat and over time now I don’t notice or care about noise upstairs, they have kids and she does aerobics but we picked a ground floor because i wanted a treadmill and I am heavy footed 🤷🏼‍♀️ They need to live and let live or get a detached house in the middle of no where so they can live in silence!!!

How did they get your number to text you? Block them or you'll never be done with their moaning.

Speak to them face to face first though, and point out that flat living involves compromises. Tell them you do not complain about their music, and that you are doing your best to be a good neighbour.

If they insist on being pricks about day to day living, try and ignore and carry on, as long as it is reasonable noise at reasonable times, which I am sure it is.

Speak to your landlord, your neighbours want it always!

Block their number for a start, then if they want to complain they'll have to go to the effort of confronting you.

I'd just block their number and think no more on it.

Text back "I suggest you move to a detached house as you are clearly not cut out for communal living." Then block them.

How the hell did they get your number? I'd be giving the estate agent/landlord hell for giving it out. FFS

So done with them now. We live abroad and the neighbour downstairs is the member of the “communal board”. I think they got our phone number automatically when we moved in! We are definitely people pleasers, I didn’t even think about blocking them!!
additional info: we are renting a bigger flat that is made out of two flats so we have two sets of neighbours downstairs. Our daughter’s bedroom and playroom is actually above the other neighbour’s flat. And that neighbour has never complained or mentioned anything about us being noisy!

'They need to live and let live or get a detached house in the middle of no where so they can live in silence!!!'

Why is this trotted out so many times? It is a most unrealistic suggestion.

Just block the number. You don’t want to be dealing with complaints every five minutes.

What if the this neighbour suggests to the communal board that he wants them out? That’s a possibility.. I think I’d try to talk to the landlord and the neighbours and give them some perspective, so they could understand better?

Just block them. Don’t say anything. Ignore. They can make an official complaint if it’s that bad.

I'd block them and then start house hunting. It's no way to live worrying about your every step.

It amazes me the number of people that have neighbour issues and say that the neighbour has texted them to complain

We've lived on our street twelve years. We don't know anybody's surnames let alone have their phone numbers

Block them and ignore them

I'm normally on the neighbours' side on these types of thread but these guys sound like cunts. I would record their music and send them the recording so it's on record with a time. Not saying it's necessarily a good idea but it's what I'd do 😂 Then I'd block and inform landlord if they continue to harass you.

We need to be here until May, one of the reasons why we try to get along… and failing 🤡

How do they have your number if you are new neighbours? This is what I have taken for your opening post.

Do not give these types one inch! Know your rights and do not pander (definitely no more gifts etc). You are not doing anything wrong. Make sure you know the local legislation on antisocial behaviour and reasonable living sounds. We went through this and our downstairs neighbour was an absolute bitch, slamming doors every time our toddler cried, no matter how long we'd been out that day, how long he was crying or what the reason was. She only stopped when we told her via text that we did not respond to bullying and intimidation and would lodge a formal complaint with the council if she didn't pack it in. This was 2.5 years ago; she couldn't be nicer to us now. Don't feed the batshit.

I would pop down and speak to the other neighbour who is underneath you. Ask if your noise has been disrupting them and explain you've had numerous complaints from the other neighbour, which is why you're checking in (in case they're just being very polite). It will give you confirmation one way or the other how unreasonable you are, but if the complainers are known PITAs, I would have thought the others would know and add that at this. It should give you some comfort you've done nothing wrong and allow you to block them safe in the knowledge the other residents are well aware of their unreasonable demands should they raise a complaint.
It is worth mentioning to your LL too though. Firstly as a heads up, but also to mention the floorboards and the possibility of carpeting. Flats often have a clause that anything over ground floor is not allowed hard floors.

it is just daytime living noise! they cannot do anything about it. you, on the other hand, can report them for playing loud music after 10pm!! wait till they have kids!!

@2jacqi that's why I think they are lacking any sort of perspective or understanding. It's not like we are letting our daughter jump and run around like a maniac, we tell her every day to be mindful of the neighbours downstairs. I am just fed up with them at this point.

So it’s been 6 months and it’s only happened 3 times?