A friend of over 20 years has stopped speaking to me and I have no idea why. I feel hurt and confused and I’m struggling to get over it. The last time we saw each other everything was fine( or at least it seemed to be)
We’d arranged to meet again a few months later and she cancelled last minute for what seemed like a genuine reason. I responded no problem, we’ll reschedule, then I didn’t hear from her again for several months. During this time I messaged once to try and arrange to meet but she never responded ( the message was read though)
I felt upset and confused. I was racking my brains trying to think of what I could’ve done to upset her. I Tried to forget about it- this was several months ago.
Then she messaged me out the blue to say hi etc.. At first I thought about ignoring it, then thought there might have been a genuine reason why she’d not been in touch. I replied back, kept it brief but friendly. Nothing. So then I’m questioning why she’d do this. So I left it a few days then replied again thinking maybe it hadn’t sent- still nothing.
I just don’t understand why someone would do this. It feels like she’s playing a silly game or deliberately trying to hurt me.
I know deep down she is not a friend anymore and I need to move on. But I miss her friendship, we’ve had some really great times over the years and I can’t make sense of it. Why get in touch again after ignoring me for months, just to blank me again. It feels so cruel.