Working nightmare

[Beyourself1]

I need to know if I’m being unreasonable.

I work in a demanding environment, a very stressful environment with an assistant manager and a manager.

The assistant manager came into our work place 4 months ago, initially we hit it off and got along well. They opened up to me about themselves and everything was great.

However over the last 4 months, this assistant manager has snapped at and shouted at myself, and other members of staff including throwing items down in crates while stomping or storming off.

Aggression towards clients, to the point they’ve argued with paying clients for the business in front of others.

Inappropriate relationship with a team member who’s role is way below theirs, the team member tried to end things amicability and they’ve become obsessed to the point of trying to physically hurt this person at work accidentally on purpose, tried causing a pile on with other members of staff, with open bitching, belittling of said team member, shouting at said team member and harassing them after work as in sat down staring them out.

Im lost on what to do because this person has declared to myself and others that they are autistic, and suffer with being over stimulated.

I’ve tried raising concerns with my direct manager and nothing has been done, it’s getting to the point where I dread coming to work due to the atmosphere and being snapped at, shouted at and spoken to passively aggressively throughout my working day.

Can someone try and help me understand if I’m being unreasonable in thinking that there’s no excuse for this behaviour and they shouldn’t be enabled or excused for doing it? Or is it reasonable in that this is reactive behaviour of someone who doesn’t understand their environment correctly ?

Yes I’ve gone to HR, the problem has still remained.

@Saschka like I’ve previously explained certain people on our team join in and are snipey, aggressive and openly bitchy in our work environment on the back of this persons behaviour. I have gone over their head which like others have suggested I now need to raise a grievance.

id be writing to the head of the organisation listing these incidents and the lack of HR/manager resolution.

Sorry I missed who asked I work in a hotel

Is it a large chain?

@Wonderously No it isn’t a large chain

You can be disabled, and still be an arsehole.

You need to go down the formal route
with documented information
it would be done better if it was done collectively

formally make your manager awa your struggling to work with them

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A doctor's report... to test if they have autism.

That's the funniest thing I've read all day.

It takes about 8 hours and you'd need a qualified specialist psychiatrist. Average cost is over £1000. But clearly OP just has that down the back of her sofa and can also get this individual to cooperate with being "tested for autism" LMAO.

No wonder people think "everyone has autism these days" if they think a GP can just listen to your chest, weigh you, and diagnose it. 🤣 See also: ADHD.

Did the problem ever resolve? Can you video/record them in full abusive mode?

A major incident happened which resulted in me reporting them to my direct manager and they had a cosy chat with them to ensure that they never did it again, and that this person was under extreme stress which was a lie.

It hasn’t been resolved and it’s only gotten worse in just gathering evidence now to report to the higher ups

Oh dear - let's hope with compelling evidence someth8 g is done. Life can be pretty shit when work is shit

In your shoes I would be moving heaven and earth to get a new job in the New year. Clearly this employer is incompetent - but this doesn't mean you to have accept being treated in this way, by anyone.