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To think my manager can F off?

29 replies

foreverdusting · 19/11/2023 15:06

I have 2 days left before I leave. They have treated me like shit and would love me to stay so I can rot away in the corner doing the work that no one else wants to do and severely underpay me.

(For content my new job - which is the exact same job offered me a 50% pay increase)

My aibu is I’ve logged into my emails today (had three days off last week on accrued annual leave) and the amount of work my manager has given me is ridiculous and if I don’t get it done it’s screwing over my colleagues - I just think fuck you, maybe if you’d treated me better I would give a shit. He just doesn’t want to be lumbered with it.

OP posts:
AhBiscuits · 19/11/2023 15:08

You look a bit peaky OP, are you sure you should work those last two days?

kgov1 · 19/11/2023 15:08

I would just respond to let him him know you won't be able to complete the allocated work within 2 days and tell him what you're prioritising. He will have have to manage when you're gone, so may as well start now

maslinpan · 19/11/2023 15:10

Just email back saying that you will obviously complete as much as possible in the remaining time you have, but he should bear in mind you will need spending time on a handover/notes for your successor.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 19/11/2023 15:10

Do what you can at a reasonable pace and leave the rest.

What can they do? Give it to you as homework?

AutumnFroglets · 19/11/2023 15:10

Just do a reasonable amount so they can't withhold a good reference but you certainly don't have to do it all. He's just panicking because nobody else will be around to do it in three days.

Congratulations on escaping!

EmpressSoleil · 19/11/2023 15:14

This happened to me years back in paper based form. I did some of it and dropped the rest in the managers pigeon hole on my last day heading out the door! It was very satisfying 😁

Justaboutalive · 19/11/2023 15:23

Just reply.

Dear Manager,

As you can see from the list below, the work set for me is more than can be reasonably completed in 2 days.

would you please place the work in order of priority and I will work through it in the time I have left. Obviously, I will not be able to do it all, nor am I available for overtime.

if I don’t hear from you, I will choose my own priorities which may not correspond with yours.

Regards

WeeSleekitCowrinTimrousBeastie · 19/11/2023 15:25

Just do what you think is reasonable and appropriate

FirstFallopians · 19/11/2023 15:27

Justaboutalive · 19/11/2023 15:23

Just reply.

Dear Manager,

As you can see from the list below, the work set for me is more than can be reasonably completed in 2 days.

would you please place the work in order of priority and I will work through it in the time I have left. Obviously, I will not be able to do it all, nor am I available for overtime.

if I don’t hear from you, I will choose my own priorities which may not correspond with yours.

Regards

yes, something like this but I’d be sure to cc in his manager as well.

Sounds like he’s panicking a bit about you leaving and realising the work isn’t going to get done, and he thinks he can pin it on you not being arsed before you left if anyone pulls him up on it. It’s easy to blame someone who isn’t there anymore.

I’d be sure to flag his failure to plan for your soon-to-be vacant position with his own manager.

TheHawkisHowling · 19/11/2023 15:29

Justaboutalive · 19/11/2023 15:23

Just reply.

Dear Manager,

As you can see from the list below, the work set for me is more than can be reasonably completed in 2 days.

would you please place the work in order of priority and I will work through it in the time I have left. Obviously, I will not be able to do it all, nor am I available for overtime.

if I don’t hear from you, I will choose my own priorities which may not correspond with yours.

Regards

This is perfect. Although I'd be very tempted to have a dreadful migraine that stopped me from going in at all.

topnoddy · 19/11/2023 15:40

Basically you're leaving in 2 days so why bust a gut to do stuff someone else can do when you have left

Tip it bollocks and chuck a sickie

Sticktoslimmingworld · 19/11/2023 16:19

I can hear you coughing from here! Take some days off sick. It’s your managers responsibility hope you get better soon 🤞

penjil · 19/11/2023 16:21

WeeSleekitCowrinTimrousBeastie · 19/11/2023 15:25

Just do what you think is reasonable and appropriate

That's quite a big scope for some!
😂😂😂

KaiserChefs · 19/11/2023 16:23

I'd be tempted to work slowly through one or two tasks I actually fancied doing. If he hasn't hired a replacement yet, your colleagues will have to pick up these tasks anyway and more after you leave. That's not your problem, don't take ownership for his shit management decisions.

Doggymummar · 19/11/2023 16:28

I wouldn't be going back, why would you take last week off instead of your last days?

Mrgrinch · 19/11/2023 16:46

I'd do the bare minimum, but I'm petty.

foreverdusting · 19/11/2023 16:51

Doggymummar · 19/11/2023 16:28

I wouldn't be going back, why would you take last week off instead of your last days?

Because I have exams and they don’t give me study time so I needed it to revise? I also need my work laptop to sit the exam as I do it remotely.

I would have loved a week off, but life gets in the way.

OP posts:
Lochness1975 · 19/11/2023 16:55

Unfortunately you have a sickness bug so won’t be in the last couple of days

MsCactus · 19/11/2023 17:00

I think you've just come down with a terrible two-day migraine.

Poor OP, rest up in bed.

Addyview · 19/11/2023 17:04

I would work slower, they can't withhold your wage or sack you on the spot for not working at lightspeed. Get yourself at a nice steady pace and ignore your manager. Like you said, they're underpaying you so you take these few days to work to your pay!

sheselectric24 · 19/11/2023 17:05

This happened to me recently. I work temp contracts and I'd ended it his one early because it was awful. Anyway manger and senior manager sent me lots of abusive emails saying I was failing in my career if I didn't complete the work and I'd have to suck it up and work extra days for free. My manager knew I was the only person who showed up to work and did the job. Everyone else had pretty much checked out and said they were working from home but would never be contactable. So I suppose she was panicking. I sent a professional email outlining what I'd managed to do and what was outstanding.
She rang me ranting and raving and repeatedly said I'd have to do it by coming in next week (for free when I was supposed to be at my new job) so I just laughed out loud and told her " I don't work there anymore, please do not contact me again" and left it at that.
In the end they refused to pay me for a weeks work I did for them. I could have challenged it but by that point I just wanted to be rid of them.

SmudgeButt · 19/11/2023 17:20

Make chocolate cupcakes as your last day treat to the team.

Make sure the manager gets the one that's full of laxatives.

Fellatfirsthurdle · 19/11/2023 17:23

Just do what you can, then at five to five on your last day, send an email to the manager outlining all the things you didn't have time to do.

myotherkidisacassowary · 19/11/2023 17:23

YANBU - I had the same experience when I left my last job. In the final week or so before I left I had an inordinate amount of work heaped on me. If I had worked 15 hour days I couldn’t have got through it. It was like my managers all woke up at once and realised they wouldn’t have me after my leave date and tried to get as much out of me as they could in the last few days.

I just worked at my normal pace, did what I could in the hours I had, and left them a note of the things I hadn’t had time to do. It wasn’t my problem or responsibility after they left and there was nothing they could do about it.

coldcallerbaiter · 19/11/2023 17:26

Leave a barely veiled review about the manager on glassdoor if you can.

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